Ex MIL strikes again

[Festivalgirl83]

So I posted about a month ago how my ex MIL had been a complete cow and shouted at me in front of my children and not let me take them home. Well today she strikes again and I've just had enough now, spent the day in tears I'm a nervous wreck.
Kids fell out this morning so I told them off they then when I leave the room get my mobile phone and ring MIL as yesterday she said they could come and visit her again when they were there with their Dad just because they didnt like being told off.

Half an hour later the crazy bitch is stood on my driveway shouting at me asking why I'm not answering my phone (when I checked she hadn't rang?)and saying they obviously want to come with me. I told her politely no they aren't as my own mother is coming to visit and as the kids were witness to all this she finally backed down.

She is such a controlling, nasty woman and I'm fed up of taking years of verbal abuse from her when I was married to her son I dont want it now. The only reason I have to be in contact is she has my kids when they are at their dads as he is living with his parents at the minute.
I feel like I'm going mad when she accused me of not answering my phone as I had no calls.
Toxic woman. And then ex husband turns up tonight telling me my kids bad behaviour is down to me, he clearly forgets what a cheating, alcoholic father can do to his kids 😔

Why would you telephone her?

You don't need contact with her anymore than you need contact with your ex. You should make only the barest, most essential communication with your ex (the other legal parent) and absolutely zero contact with her. Do everything by email, no phone conversation as they aren't verifiable.

Stop giving these people an "in" to stir and meddle with your sanity.

Sorry that meant to say the kids grabbed my phone and called her not me!

Sounds like you're going to have to put a lock on your phone.

Delete that number now so they can’t pull that stunt again.

lock on your phone
block her,delete her and never contact her again

if shecomes to your door, tell her if she continues you will report her for harassment.

Put a lock on your phone. Block and delete her number. If she sees them when they’re with their dad then she doesn’t need to be interfering on your time with them or even be in contact with you at all

How old are your kids. What a strange thing for them to do

Well done for standing up to her today and sending her away. That’s a big step up from last time. It sounds like your xH and xMIL are bad mouthing you. This could be parental alienation which is v damaging and something you can record and report as it is ultimately damaging to the DCs.

Are you using her for childcare?

Go pc with her. Let the dad sort it out. Tell the kids off for what they did. Password protect your phone.

Pc! Go LC!

I wouldn't delete her number, just re-name it "Sandra from Accounts" or something your children might not figure out immediately (not sure how old they are). That way you can still screen her calls and have the number for absolute emergencies.

My exMIL is a toxic shit stirer too. Absolutely zero readon to have any contact with her whotsoever. For your own sanity, tell her this and be free of the crazy bitch. If she doorsteps you, tell her to f off. (Unless your kids in earshot). If she does it again. Repeat. And repeat again if necessary. And delete her from your contacts. Its what i have done. Trust me. You'll feel great. She's a vile old toxic cow. Ive read your other posts. You are 100% justified and owe it to yourself. Im sure your kids will be smart enough to see through her. If not immediately, then as they get older. These crazy bitches think they can 'win' against the mother. Deluded. Mad. Fucked up. Good luck