WWYD - moving when my teens don't want to

[sundaysundaes]

I'm really torn about this and would appreciate outside views. Im a lp, still living in what was my matrimonial home, exh left over a decade ago when dcs were young. Exh EA and has made life difficult over the years, still pays the mortgage under a court order.

Now I'm in a position where I can move to a 3 bed flat and buy it outright with no mortgage. I would be staying in the same area.

My current place has had no end of problems over the years - nightmare neighbours, mice, damp and loads of maintenance. I feel like a flat will be easier, it will end me having to be so financially reliant on exh and will be a fresh start.

The problem is, dcs don't want to move. One will be at Uni soon and the other is in yr 10.

The thing is, sooner or later I will have to move anyway. I'd like to do it ASAP. I feel so guilty though, that they don't want to WWYD?

You are going to have to move sometime so now is as good a time as any. If you leave it until all 3 DC are at Uni you might struggle to make new memories in the new property.

Having moved 2 DC to 5 different countries I am a strong advocate of home is where family is and not bricks & mortar.

From a purely economic point of view there has never been a better time for you to buy than before 31st Mar 2021 because of the stamp duty savings.