I was wondering if someone could give me some advice please? I just feel so lost at the moment. I ended my marriage 2 years ago as I was unhappy. We spent 2 years before that trying to improve things but my husband just gave up & decided I was leaving so what was the point.
I then met someone else who turned out to be rather controlling & would make me feel really anxious. He basically expected me to behave how he wanted & if I didn’t he would sulk for days & say horrible things to me.
I am now seeing another man who appears to be lovely but I am constantly looking out for things. If he doesn’t message I get worried he has changed his mind about me etc.
Anyway, I need to find my own self worth somehow. I know I feel the need for constant attention from whoever I am with. I have a pretty crap job & although I have friends a lot of them do not live close by. I just feel like my happiness depends on a man all the time. I am looking to be loved but don’t think I even love myself. I am very critical of everything I do from the way I look to my parenting skills. How can I turn my thinking around please?
I have had counselling & it did help a bit but I am still stuck in this negativity & over processing way of thinking.
I would really appreciate any advice that has helped you change x