I'm 50 next year, two DS (16 and 11) divorced but been with DP 8 years, we don't live together, he also has two DS (17 and 15). We have talked about moving in together a number of times but because of various factors (mainly me terrified of losing my independence) it's never happened.
He is kind, trustworthy, loves me, brilliant with my boys, supportive, we talk a lot, he's the first person I would go to for advice, gets on great with my friends and family, basically my best friend. Negatives are, bit of a Disney Dad, issues with ExW and a bit tight.
My problem is I've gone off any sort of sexual activity with him. Anything. We are affectionate and touchy feely, but that's it. I find the thought of kissing or sex with him just awful and I don't know how it's happened? it was good up until around 4 years ago when I just went off it? I've tried supplements, counselling, everything. It's not fair on him, he's been so patient and understanding and I feel like a cow. I can't just 'do it for the sake of it'. It's not as if I've gone off sex but just sex with him?
My question is can it come back? should I leave and let him find someone else? I just don't know what to do....