Am I letting myself in for heartbreak ??

[Willowmartha1]

Met someone in February and we had a few dates before lockdown kept in touch etc and met again a couple of weeks ago where it transpired that a women he knew three years ago has got back in touch and he had been to hers for the weekend. He then regaled me with what an amazing weekend it had been but that she was a total nutcase and he didn't think he would see her again although from the way he was talking I think he would go again if she asked him. He now wants to meet up with me at the weekend as he said he likes spending time with me and I really enjoy seeing him too, I'm torn between going or cancelling and saving myself the heartbreak. Advice ??

He told you he spent all weekend shagging another woman???
He didn't have to tell you that detail. Far too much.
What a knob.

You know what to do otherwise you wouldn't be posting.
She clicked her fingers and he went running and now is whining to you about it.
Very very unattractive.

He's just messaged to say he wants us to go on a double date with one of his friends and her husband. The mind boggles !!

Nooooooo!

You’ve had a 100% United bunch of replies saying you’d be mad to go out with him again yet you’re still believing the crap excuses he tells you. You still don’t know what to do. You’re still receiving his messages and suggestions. I think you’ll be going back for more and being second best.

What is wrong with you that you're even considering this?

Eugh he sounds so sleazy. He describes his ex as a nutter, Coke head etc but still spent the weekend with her.... still had sex with her..... then told you all about it and is treating you like sloppy seconds. If she really is as bad as he made out, wtf did he have sex with her? What does that say about him? He told you it wasn't going anywhere with you, fucked her then came crawling back when it didn't work out with the ex. Honestly, he sounds just vile. Don't go there.

@RLEOM I found a naked picture of her on his bed. He swore on our child's life that she didn't know he was taking the picture.

...sorry what?

I mean, quite apart from the appalling practice of swearing on his child's life, which appears to be a thing for some people...

Did he seriously think that would make it better?

(ah bollocks, format fail sorry)

No!! You deserve better. This has disaster written all over it

Once you decline his unattractive offer I am sure he will have a few special names just for you.

Sounds like you're actually enjoying the drama this fuckwitted arsehole brings to your life. Crack on then. Anyone with an iota of self-respect would have ghosted this twat long ago.

The fact that you're considering it shows you like the drama.

Please, don't do this to yourself. You deserve better.

The other woman is sitting there thinking, 'OMG! What an amazing weekend with xxx, can't wait to see him again!'. Meanwhile, he's telling you she's a nutter....

@NebularNerd no she's told him she wants to have a 'break up date' even though they weren't even dating ??! Whatever that is!

But, you only have his side of the story......

@Willowmartha1

Why are you even considering seeing him again?! Seriously - he is AWFUL!

He was happy to have a mad weekend with his cokehead mate and shag her then call her mental afterwards to you and you are STILL attracted to him and considering a date?

Really?!

No, no and no again op. If he was that into you, he's not think to date or sleep with another woman. And wtf Is it with telling you about the weekend just no!