Would you expect commitment?

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Hello!

Just wanted some opinions on wether you think this 'relationship' is going anywhere.

I've been dating a guy since early January, we both said at that point that we were only after dating with nothing serious but after around a month we both said we wouldn't date anyone else / Came off dating sites etc.

Things were going really well then lockdown hit, it was difficult but we met twice a week for half an hour for socially distanced walks.

Since lockdown was lifted, we see each other a couple of times a week and then stay over one night at the weekend / go for days out, things are going really well but I'm not sure if there is
any sign of commitment from him.

He has told 2 friends about me but he hasn't told the others in the group of his family as far as I know and social media's says single.

It's been 7 months and it's just plodding along, would you expect more commitment / status after 7 months? Under normal circumstances I would have probably given up but I'm kind of plodding along too because we didn't get as much of the honeymoon stage as we should have due to lockdown.

I know I really need to ask him if we are going forward but I guess I'm just worried incase he knocks me back and is just after a casual thing.
I don't really even know how to broach the subject.

He is 30 and I'm 36 (with DD8) for reference.

Thanks in advance for the opinions.

Hi, I think if it was me, I would expect a commitment at this stage.

You only stay over one night a week? At his house or your own?

7 months stage, I would expect more.

Thanks for your reply - We are at mine during the weeks (as I have my DD) and his when I stay over the the weekend.

Seeing each other 3x a week is quite a lot when you bother have family commitments. Have you introduced him to your DD? How old is she?

I don't get the social media thing tbh. What says he's single? Just his Facebook relationship status? I don't think adults really think about those do they? I haven't updated mine in about a decade and I've had a good few longish term relationships! Can't think of any other social media pages that would have you explicitly state your relationship status?

My DD is 8, he doesn't have any children.
He comes over once when she is in bed as I am reluctant to let them meet until I know there is some commitment.

One thing to keep in mind is that the past 7 months haven't in any way been a normal 7 months. Another thing is that he might need more time to figure out if having an instant family is something he really wants. He's also only 30, and some 30 year old men can still be quite immature in many ways.

What are you even looking for at this stage? Moving him in? Honestly, I hope you aren't because it's far too early for that, especially when there's a child involved.

You say I know I really need to ask him if we are going forward but I guess I'm just worried incase he knocks me back and is just after a casual thing. If you ask at least you will know and you can base your decision on whether you carry on with him based on his response rather than just dragging it out and getting more involved only to find down the line it is only the casual for him