Morning!
I desperately need some impartial advice on this situation i have gotten myself into..
So my husband and I separated officially in January after I discovered a 3rd affair. I found out about in October but my dad got very sick after so I didn't deal with until after Xmas.
Anyway I've been chatting to my best friend recently about how I've got all these fun things I won't to do in my child free weekends but wanted someone to come along ideally. So she told her brother who was happy to join me. He's also single, has been since January too but it took him a long time to end his previous relationship as his ex was quite ill and he felt he couldn't leave.
So I agreed to go for a drink with him last week and this weekend we went kayaking. He knew it wasn't a date and that was just after a friend.
Well... he's lovely! We ended up staying out all day Sunday, had lunch and went for walk. Chatted all day. We get on really well. I could tell there was a definite spark there though and some flirting (him and me).
When he said goodbye he asked me if I'd consider seeing him more as he really liked me. Now I would love to (it was taking a lot of self control not to touch him tbh!) but I'm a little scared. I genuinely didn't go into looking for that and I'm surprised I liked him like that tbh. So I'm scared I'll hurt him. He's so kind and caring (obviously can trust him too as I've known his sister for years and have seen him at family events) and my life is messy right now. Divorce has just started, ex could be a complete dick if he finds out etc.
So do I back away or am I thinking way too much about this and should I go and see what happens?