First time poster here and i have thought quite a lot about this and i wonder if others feel the same about my situation.
my close to 2 year relationship came to an end recently and although we had not been getting along very well for some time i understand the reasons for this was another party involved that i had no idea about but my others behaviour with me and towards me made things difficult resulting in me losing all trust and integrity in that person as what was being said didnt match how i was being treated.
but my main feelings on this is that the other party has taken my place in that relationship now yet my Ex still wishes to remain freinds and still have a freindship with me and still do the activities that we did together running cycling swimming etc.
we had done many rides and sportives together and one of our challenges was to do a half iron man triathlon.
I feel that a relationship cant just be swapped one person for another as i feel loss for the relationship and freindship and if its that easy then the freindship didnt mean anything and close two 2 years of my life meant nothing.
so i have said i cant just carry on i need for their to be value placed on the freindship and there needs to be a feeling of loss of the freindship otherwise going forward what respect would there be for me.
as i have lost my partner my running buddy swim partner and cycling buddy all these i can find in clubs or with others.
but that doesnt make it any easier when dealing with feelings of loss and betrayal .