It has come to light my mother is possibly having an affair with a friend of my fathers.
She has been seen by many people going into his house alone and staying for a long time. She tells my father she is visiting a female friend or going shopping. When the friend visits my father at their flat she keeps her distance as she claims to find him rude.
My father came to me with suspicions as he saw them walking together giggling and playfully swatting each other, in a place neither were expected to be, least of all together. They immediately froze when they saw him and said nothing is going on. Understandably he now thinks they are having an affair, which my mother denies.
I can’t look past this. I feel sick to my stomach at the thought of my mother having an affair and doing it under everyone’s nose. Her story doesn’t match up with the friends’ and alongside the secret visits and her recent happy, bubbly change in mood I know deep down they are having an affair, whether emotional or more her face gave it away. It’s easy to say she’s still my mother but I also feel betrayed and lied to. She has convinced my brother of a different version of events so he believes her and he has verbally attacked me for being suspicious of her. I’m now slowly lessening my contact with her. We used to speak daily until the recent months when she’d be ‘busy’. I want to cut her out of my life as I don’t feel I can trust her and overlook the hurt she’s causing my father. I feel repulsed at her actions. Her behaviour and recent comments make her look more guilty, and she slipped up basically admitting to an affair by accident. My father is being called paranoid and controlling for suspecting them, despite a lot of evidence now making sense to him. I just wish they would admit it.
I intend to keep well away from the situation and let them handle it as adults together, as they are agreeing to split. A hand hold and some advice would be lovely. I’m in shock despite being late 30s I imagined them together all their lives. I never expected to be disgusted with my own mother and feel hatred towards her. Has any one felt the same and did you overlook it?