Just thinking really.
My mum used to yell at /bicker with my dad all the time. It was quite embarrassing and they were well known for it but we kind of just laughed it off. However it used to upset me, for my dad mostly, I thought she was really mean, I mean he was quite frustrating with how he wouldn't hear her or would join in conversations with no idea what was being discussed but interrupt with his opinion etc, she'd go mad at him. They always argued when I was a child, well she did, he was passive at least with her.
Now... Mum died a while back and I spend a lot more time with dad.
I'm starting to do it 😣 he's infuriating. I don't know if it's more than before but I just find him so difficult sometimes.
I don't want to be like her, I loved mum but this was one aspect of her personality I didn't like. She was quite passive aggressive too.
I find myself snapping at him quite a lot, but it's always because he comes out with such crap. I avoid being PA in my life as I find it a horrid trait, yet here I am constantly biting my tongue to stop myself from doing it.
I'm the only child nearby, my older brother lives far away so it all falls on me.
Also as a side note, whilst my dad can find lots of nice things to say about my brother, he really struggles with me, he doesn't know how to compliment me etc.
He is likely to be around a long time, I need help to stop snapping, reacting, and just letting things go. It's making me stressed every time I see him.
Not really sure what I'm asking, just venting really, wondering if anyone has experienced similar. I have on occasion told him that the way he speaks (he massively over reacts to minor things, such as heavy traffic or something costing 50p more than he expects, or coronavirus 
) is unacceptable and that I need to walk away from him for a while but it doesn't help so maybe its me that needs to change.
By nature, I'm very calm and quiet, non confrontational but I don't like how I am around him.