He's just not that into you should not be recommended watching for single women

[LilMissRe]

Morning everyone! I've posted on telly addicts too. Thought this could sit well under relationships as well.

I had a bit of a light-hearted debate with my friends yesterday over this film because in essence I think it is crap and they believe women should watch it before dating.

Th guy giving Gigi advice has given her the impression that he likes her, through his actions towards her. She, listening to his advice thinks he does and makes a move- ONLY TO BE SHUT DOWN by him, which leaves her confused. He then 'realises' he liked her all along and pursues her, so in fact 'he WAS that into her'

Ben Affleck's character admitted marriage was never for him and that causes problems for him and Beth, Beth leaves. He then 'realises' he wanted to be married to her all along, so he finds her and they do.

If anything, this film shows men have a delayed reaction to what they want i.e, women know what men want before men know it themselves and that men think they know what they want, but they don't always.

My friends insist that this film shows that guys are easy to read and I disagree. It's far fetched and stupid. A lot of girls watch and have watched this film and I do not think it is revealing anything of substance- just more confusion. Granted guys who are awful at the beginning stages of dating are easier to spot.

I will admit that I never realised how much a man cleaning the dishes without be asked was a turn on- that is it, and that is a dream I will hold out to have materialise.

If you have seen this film, perhaps you could explain to me how I am, if I am missing the message entirely?

It's a film, it's entertainment, and it's only tangentially linked to the book.

The idea that you don't waste time trying to change someone is worthwhile. Someone who is really into you does not need changing.

Oh the film is useless. I watched it on a plane and was glad that I hadn’t paid for a cinema ticket!

It’s tried to take the fundamental message of the self-help book on which it is based - look at how men behave, rather than what they say, and that will tell you whether your relationship is any good - and turn it into a story with a happy ending. It fails miserably.

The film plot is contrary to the premise of the book, which says that if somebody is dismissive towards you, or doesn’t give you enough time, they don’t care for you and you should move on. Why would such a man suddenly do a 180 degree turn and decide that they loved the female character all along? It’s silly and would not happen in real life.

Whereas the book is a funny, smart, practical explanation of a basic principle: if somebody likes you, they usually let you know by their actions. I really enjoyed it when I read it (years ago, before I was married), probably more so because it confirmed what I already thought.

I will admit that I never realised how much a man cleaning the dishes without be asked was a turn on- that is it, and that is a dream I will hold out to have materialise.

Bit of a low bar, OP.

@WinterAndRoughWeather
That was the one scene I really teared up. Brought back memories of countless arguments withy exH over him doing his share of the work around the house :)

I also watched this recently and couldn't believe how insulting it was. The basic premise is that a woman should devote all of her time, energy and attention towards getting a man. The characters are all beautiful, successful, fun but still desperate to get and keep a man, even if he's married to someone else.
Thank god Jennifer Connelly's character files for divorce in the end.
But the 'plot twist' with Jennifer Aniston was awful.