how did you know you had met the right one?

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Online dating for years.

When and how did you know?

Watching with interest as I'm still waiting...

I think it was probably about 12 months to be sure.

Initially I was attracted to him physically but also his personality. I guess his professional side was an attraction as he was ambitious and as a result successful. We shared similar sense of humour and I realised I missed him when we were not together.

Importantly he was very considerate in bed but really made me aroused and as the relationship progressed he became more adventurous and I found I wanted to be as well as I felt so comfortable.

So was it an instant thing? No it wasn't but a sudden realisation I wouldn't want to be without him ever. Moved in together after 18 months and he proposed after we had been together 4 years

Aw lovely story

I was 36, about to give up online dating then met my husband. We just got on really well and from our second date we stayed together at each others houses for about 10 days so our second date lasted almost 2 weeks. We have been married now for 10.5 years (feel old saying that).

To be fair we did realise we did find out early on that we had loads in common in terms of mutual friends and had pretty much grown up living parallel lives in the same towns, going on the same holidays, to the same parties etc but had never actually met each other - very strange but clearly it was meant to be!

Placemarking :)

We had one of those thunderbolt moments Instant attraction and clicking. We didnt even say hello, he just joined a conversation and it was almost like 'where have you been, been waiting for you' feeling.

Two kids and 15 years later we still smile about how we met. Schmoltzy but true.

@KooKooKachoo Wow I'd love to have that experience :)
Were you friends then? at a network event?

No never met before. Was having lunch with colleague.

I knew from the moment I met him. I've never met my male double and he was it. Well, at least I thought I knew. My head and heart still feel he's the one, despite nearly 2 years apart. I can still see the love and lust in his eyes every time we do a handover with our child. But we both ruined our relationship after our daughter was born through stupid, selfish actions due to sleep deprivation and lack of communication. We both ruined what was something beautiful and now there's too much water under the bridge.

Oh, well. I just pray I find another "The One."

We met when we were teens. An absolute' Arrgh there you are moment for both of us'. We went out with each other for a couple of years. We broke up due to interference from our friends. ( we were v young).

We both married other people and then when we'd both divorced we found each other via Facebook.
14 years together and a 7 yr old DD. Still very happy.

We were on and off for a while and I had some moments where I thought i should just move on but I just couldn’t imagine a future without him and there was something that always pulled us back together

Probably after about 6 months although we had known eachother for four years before hand - just evolved and the more we got to know eachother the more everything just felt amazing and right - I think you start to really yearn for that personal in all areas of life physically emotionally sexually etc...

We've been together 7 years married for one with two DDs and although our relationship isn't perfect and he drives me nuts I am crazy about him still and bottom line I couldn't be without him

Vomcentral!

I do think mines ‘the one’, I knew I was in trouble the moment I met him, poor guy, poor guy.

I think the main thing though if something is annoying, irritating, upsetting etc we’ll both happily tell each other straight away, we’re also not natural shouters/arguers. Although we have Dave as well, sometimes if one of us has done something annoying we’ll blame Dave the imaginery guy who lives with us, he regularly leaves used glasses everywhere, what a twat.

We have a lot in common, and we discovered we share quite a few friends, we even work in the same industry. Hes more outgoing and I’m quite quiet unless I’m around people I know quite well. He comes to watch me play rugby (he couldn’t hate rugby more if he tried), I however refuse to watch football in return!

We have so far survived living together (including with my little boy), hospital trips, disaster days out, a fairly shit meet the parents.

He smiled at me at work, I was hooked. Sadly he was married to someone else..

Two years later the exW left him in at attempt to bully him into something and he decided not to follow her. He asked me out and we've together ever since.

I can't really describe it, it was like we just knew, and whenever we hold hands we get a little electric charge, still 7 years, one wedding and 1 DC later.

Loving these stories

I always had a 'thing' for him, he was my brothers friend. A few years older than me, it was kind of unspoken and a boundary not to be crossed as I was probably 14 when we met. I was in a relationship from 17 and had two children, it didn't work out. 3 years ago I reached out to him on social media because I just kept thinking about him ( so embarrassing) he had been single for a while. We went out and he admitted he always liked me. The rest is history. We got married last week and there is no doubt in my mind that I will be with him forever the connection is just incredible x

OLD. We met up after chatting for about 5 weeks. I normally wouldn’t have bothered waiting that long but we both had weekends booked up during a really busy time. When we met I just kind of felt, ‘Ahh, there you are’. I wanted to hold his hand straight away. I didn’t but I wanted to. I had mind blowing, tweety pie birds round head, jelly legs, needing Lucozade, sex with him that first night. I was dazed for about 3 days after. And that was that. No messing about, no game playing, we were a couple and have been for the last 5 years.

The old adage of, ‘when somebody wants to be with you, they’re with you’ is so true. I never had to chase him, wonder where he was, worry if he was out with other women; I’ve never had to doubt him for a second. The bond is just so strong. We are thrilled with each other. And the sex is still mind blowing 😁

We met at a regular social event. He made me laugh when he invited me to an ironing party (I didnt accept). We later went on a couple of dates then I stopped seeing him. I think I panicked as I had been very badly hurt previously and had been single for 7 years. Some months later he sent me a Valentine's card and I rang him to say Thankyou. He is a good cook and he offered to cook for me. (I am a terrible cook), he cooked me a delicious meal and I stayed overnight. We talked almost all night and I stayed for sunday lunch. By monday when I went back to work I had lost my voice.
He asked me to marry him after 3 months. (I knew he would and I knew I would say yes.) We have been married 12 years.
It just felt "right"

I met dh through OLD. It was just easy. Our first date we met for a coffee at Starbucks - we got on well laughing and chatting, we both clearly fancied each other. Within a couple of hours of getting home he'd messaged me and that was it. No game playing, always made time to see me, no messing around or doubts or drama. Just fun and straightforward and within a few weeks asked me to be his gf. After a couple of years asked me to marry him. 8 years later we have 2 kids and a house. In my experience, when it's the one it's just easy!

Met my DP on Match. I had been on there for ages and never dated anyone. Then we started talking and we messaged for months- i felt like messaging for a while was a good way of filtering people. His first message was something about a comedy I had said I liked in my profile. He had actually read my profile... When we met for a date it was like we had known each other for years. Within 4 months we were on holiday together. 4 years later and we own our house and have our second baby on the way. I fancied him as soon as saw him but his sense of humour is what really attracts me. We just have so much fun... right from that first message.

Loving these love stories!
You'll know when you mean the one OP it's so true xx

You never do. Even guys who you think are wonderful for 4 years can turn out to be abusive and violent. Bitter experience here.

Following. Have met kindred spirits, but yet to meet 'the one'.

Met mine on POF of all places! Was supposed to be drinks and tapas but we slightly over ordered (both love food and panic about not having enough ) so it turned into actual dinner, drink afterwards, deciding to abandon cars and get taxis home, first kiss was electric (May have been helped by the drinks!) and then while we were busy kissing, he had his wallet stolen off the table in front of us so couldn’t get a taxi home. Came home with me. Had a great night. I drunkenly told him I loved him He got a lift into work in the morning with a friend, got a parking ticket on his abandoned car. And still declares it the best first date ever . I sent him a message that day saying I’d had a great time and we both agreed no silly games. Things haven’t always been smooth sailing - both came with kids, exes and emotional baggage, but even when it’s seemed like hope is lost, we’ve found our way back to each other.

Do I believe he’s the only person in the world I could ever feel this way about? No, probably not. But after 40+ years and 20+ sexual partners he’s definitely my favourite, so I’m sticking with him!

In my experience there isn’t “the one”. There are many right people for you, different people give you different experiences and different lives. No one is perfect in the long run and you will always have to accept some compromises. But I do think that one sentence sums it up for me: you need to feel that life will just be better with that person in it.

DH and I argue LOTS. I recently did a post on here about divorcing him! Thankfully he has pulled himself together since. Our relationship has improved a lot. Fundamentally, we are very different BUT one thing strikes me: I ALWAYS look forward to him coming home. There is never a day or a time where I don’t feel a sense of excitement/happiness/relief when I hear his key in the door. Even if I then straight after get mad at him about something, even if I’m already mad at him. The truth is, no matter how much I sometimes feel I hate him
And we don’t get along, I want him in my life and I would miss him like hell if we split up.

He still makes me laugh. He still turns me on. He still teaches me about the world. He still makes me a better person.

Soppy, but true.

How did I know when we met 10 years ago? He made me feel like I had come home. Like I finally belonged. His love felt solid and safe to trust. He immediately treated me well and was willing to admit his feelings from the beginning, he didn’t play games. The first time we kissed, he said “now I’ll never let you go.” It sounds a bit crazy, I guess, it after 10 years and two kids, this is still the case. Recently I gave him an ultimatum to stop drinking (he has been drinking too much) or I would leave him and since then, now 2 weeks, he hasn’t touched a drop of alcohol. All this to say - no one is perfect, but you need to find someone who is committed to having a relationship, someone you can see sticking it out through the good and bad times, I think that’s the most important quality, if you’re looking for a long term relationship.