settling down quickly, did it just feel right? how did it feel? i’ve dated a lot and feeling like giving up :(

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I’ve been on a lot of dates and can’t seem to find the right one. I’m getting older now, 34 and feeling sad about it all.

I’m very settled with life and just missing that person to share things with. Why can’t I find someone where it just works :(

Sending solidarity, I am in EXACTLY the same situation. currently wondering whether to settle for someone kind but not a great match.

Could you be ready for a break from OLD if you've been doing it continuously? it takes a lot of energy and maybe you need some time to regroup and go back to it with a fresh pair of eyes and enjoy it again?

I did break over lockdown, but I’ve been dating now for 2 years with two short relationships in that time. It never feels like the real deal...

I don’t get why. I get out there, I chat, I make effort. I’m busy in my own life too. It just hasn’t happened. Feeling so shit tonight :(

I settled down quickly with someone and moved to England to live with them. And it felt amazing, until he left and had an affair.
Sorry, that's kind of a shit answer but I sometimes wish I'd been less keen on living the romance 'script' and made better decisions.
I'm sorry you're having dating troubles. OLD can require a thick skin.

I've been OLD for 10 years and have yet to meet anyone either. And I'm 38. No real advice but just wanted you to know you're not alone.

I did OLD on and off from 32 to 36. Must have been on 50 odd dates, but had to take breaks as it’s so emotionally draining. One short relationship of about 3 months, one of about 6 months. Met my partner on OLD at the age of 36 and that was 4 years ago. It can happen!

I thought he was lovely on the first date, but it wasn’t until about 3 months in it felt like it could be the one.