How easy is it to find men for casual dating that aren't player types?

[Maria53]

By player types I mean bad boy, dont treat women well types.

I am 28 and feel I am finally over my ex who i broke up with last summer. But with this pandemic and the emotional heaviness of other things going on I'm not desperate to get into a serious relationship any time soon. If it happens, sure.

But for now I'd just like some nice dates/company/romance without it necessarily having to lead anywhere. Am I asking for the impossible?

From what I recall from dating sites you often have to pigeon yourself into what you are looking for. When in reality I just want to date but open to something serious.

I don't think you need to mention it. You're describing dating. If you say you want casual, it sounds as though you want one night stands. You could look for a FWB, which is actually difficult to do

And what is a "player type"?

Hmm. But don't most people go into dating with a view to finding a relationship? Wouldnt it be misleading to be clear?

Not one night stands as such. Maybe more of a FWB like you say. Although in my previous experience men I have tried to have fwbs with have often wanted more.

These days there are probably just as many female player types.

If you are looking for casual it shouldn’t matter one jot if they are players

Well, yes, but you have to get to know someone, before you decide whether you mutually want to have a relationship. U TIL then it's just dating, and probably more than one person at a time.

Just realised that maybe it sounds like I am the one suggesting becoming a female player !

Hmm. I wouldnt sleep with two people at once, for example. I suppose you make a good point @Wherearemymarbles

Maybe I shouldn't go down that route after all. It has been ages since I've tried online dating. I met my last ex through a mutual hobby but it is not always easy to do.

Look up relationship anarchist.

No need to be with someone who doesn't treat you with respect. I have friends and lovers but they are all on good terms suitable for both parties.