tax credits and tips for exile split to kids

[Glittergirl80]

I've posted a couple of times about being unhappy in my marriage and my DH being horrendous to my kids and l. I've decided i'm telling him in tuesday when DC are at my parents that l want to separate. l know he is going to be unreasonable and probably not leave so l wondered if anyone has any tips on how to explain it to the kids (they are 11 and 8 the eldest possibly ADHD and very over sensitive and dramatic) and does anyone know if he refuses to move out or give me money can l get tax credits?

Any help/advice much appreciate

I wouldn’t tell the kids until you know definitely what is happening as a child with adhd can get easily confused and will want to know certainties.If you tell the kids you are separating but still living together that could be too awkward for them to understand.

Is the house owner or rented? You can’t force him to move out .
Regarding tax credits - do you work ? You may live in a universal credit area so tax credits are obsolete. Benefits vary massively on circumstance . If you are living with your husband it may be harder to prove you are single. But it is possible.

my plan is not to tell them until he is actually leaving but i can't see him not doing that i'm sure he'll want them to know its my fault. i work 22.5 hours per week but i know i am entitled to universal credit but i'm just concerned he refuses to give me money and my wages won't cover everything. the house is owned outright in both names

I'd speak to a solicitor about your options before you do anything. You may be able to find one that offers a free initial consultation to get you started.

If he's horrendous (abusive?) to your dc, I would consider leaving with them - would your parents be able to help you/put you up temporarily? If he is abusive, you may be able to get an occupation order for the house.