I need urgent advice please

[adviceneeded01]

I am very confused last night ,dp came home from work at around 10pm ,everything was normal we went to bed and I fell asleep sometime during the night I woke up to find him on top off me and I tried to push him off he held me down and I asked him to stop he didn't ,he just started saying obscene things about it been what I wanted in the end I just lay there and waited for him to finish.

This morning he said sorry and made a joke of it

nothing like this has happened before and no alcohol or anything was involved last night
I feel very shook up but can't work it out in my head is it rape or not?

Where are you, adviceneeded01? Hope you're ok.

yes it's rape
but you know that

I've been with my dh for 7 years (not that time is relevant, rape is rape) and there is NO WAY this would happen in our marriage. No way. It just would not.

So it's not normal. Imo.

WWW I think that may be how OP felt before it happened. How awful.

This reminds me of a weird experience I had several years ago before the children.
I had a sort of friend who fancied me. I had to keep fending him off.

One night my motorbike got nicked and I called him as I'd seen someone running off with it and was really freaked out - they had seen me and just taken it.
Anyway after the police had been, he turned up and offered to hang around. I was grateful and there was only one room, one bed, and trusting him as a friend he lay next to me.
I fell asleep and a while later awoke to find him with his hand up my t shirt, it was awful.
I shouted what was he doing, and he got off and apologised and left. I was even more freaked out than I had been by the theft.
This guy kept sending texts, once to say he was sorry and then assumed I would still want to be as we had been before, ie friends.

I texted to say no, I needed some space and was not happy.
I wondered always whether to take it any further as I found out shortly after this that he had a history of schizophrenia/mental issues.
However I never did report it or anything.

I think what happened to OP is much much worse and very serious. But she must be feeling utterly confused and frightened. I just hope she knows we are all on her side.