Eurgggggh marriage!!!

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So I am 39 and have been with my partner for around 4 years. We have a nine week-old gorgeous little girl together and I have two older kids 50/50 from my first marriage.
We have both been married before - his divorce was really amicable, mine was not. Despite my ex-husband being extremely wealthy I was left far worse off financially (narcissist) and he continues to take me to court time and time again re gaining more custody.
My partner is keen on the idea of marriage but I really am not. I believe it is unecessary.
Before people say "Well it would protect you financially", I am earn more than partner and have savings, he doesn't have any savings). He doesn't earn a huge amount, neither do I. We rent a property jointly. He has no other children except our daughter.
In a nutshell, I fail to see the point of marriage but my partner would disagree!

You don't need to rush into it, or do it at all.
You might want to think about what would happen to your children if anything happened to you.

@MikeUniformMike You're right. Well (very sadly) the boys would automatically go to their dad full-time if anything happened to me and all contact would cease with any of my family. Nothing I could do about that unfortunately.

If both of us died then my partner's sister would have our daughter (she's 49 so "young" enough; all of our other family members would be too old to take on a little one realistically).

If the relationship is working as it is then stay as you are.

Why is he so keen on marriage?
Would you do it if you had a prenup that outlined your wants and wishes?
Tell him once he has saved for it you will discuss it?

I fail to see how marriage would benefit you in any way. I wouldn't get married if I were you.

I wouldn't get married in your situation. You are quite likely to take a hit to your earnings if you work part time while your daughter is little.

I would never advise a woman with more money than her partner to marry, for that reason. It's different if marriage affords you some protection for the child bearing years.

If you divorced, you would be worse off financially and so would all your kids.

Ah this thread makes me warm and tingly inside 😂

Might be worth asking in legal about appointing guardians for your children ?

Ah thanks all, I thought I was being "unromantic"!! These replies are so refreshing! I see on MN so much postets telling women "You must marry to protect yourself" and it drives me nuts. Firstly it wrongly assumes the man is the higher earner, secondly it assumes marriage protects the lower earner (it definitely doesn't if the ex is clever enough in court), and it leaves the lower earner extremely vulnerable should they give up earning.
Conversely, as a lot of you have identified, the higher earner or a person with savings (especially if they are a decent one), can also be screwed over.
Anyone who is certain beyond doubt that marriage is for life and puts their complete trust in their husband/wife without their own financial protection in place is a fool!

@user447624335 The issue is, my ex-husband and I didn't even agree who they would be when we were married for our boys!
Re my daughter, I totally agree. We will do that