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Is this weird?

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Santana2000 · 31/07/2020 00:38

My niece is nineteen. She's my older sister's kid. She's seeing this guy who is just turned thirty. She met him at school, she calls him a "returning student" and she is a first year student. This is the story: they met when he was with his fiance of four years. This fiance was five 1/2 years younger than him. He broke it off with her b/c he told my niece he liked her. Now they are together my niece says they are having sex. My sister told me all this and I said wtf? She thinks it's ok. Does this guy sound like he is taking advantage of her? Is this weird to you?

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Mintjulia · 31/07/2020 00:47

Your niece is an adult. She is entitled to choose who she is with. It may not be ideal but she is old enough to make her own mistakes now. Don’t condemn the relationship, you’ll drive her away.

Stay friends, so when/if it goes wrong, she knows she can come to you for support.

DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult · 31/07/2020 00:50

It's weird that your sister is passing on personal details about her daughters sex life.

Ispywithmycynicaleye · 31/07/2020 00:51

My DD (20) just informed me she has been seeing a guy aged 39 (same age as me).

Divebar · 31/07/2020 00:55

I don’t know that it’s weird.... he’s presumably at a college or university not a school. The age of his fiancé doesn’t seem extraordinary so I’m struggling to see the problem overall. I dare say you couldn’t have told me at 19 not to date a 30 year old - I made far more dubious decisions than that.

Spinachfinger · 31/07/2020 00:59

It's really up to your niece what she does and who with. She is an adult now. Just make sure she knows she can count on you for support if she ever needs it.

backseatcookers · 31/07/2020 01:24

It's more weird you're all discussing her sex life to be honest...

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