My Father

[RhapsodyandAshe]

Haven't spoken to him for around two/three years.
He lives in a different country and I haven't seen him in person since 2011.
In 2016 asked him to come and visit me but he never even mentioned it again.
He was here last Christmas but I chose not to see him.
He has emailed me and told me he will always love me.
My journey through life has taught me that love is an action and not a word. His actions don't demonstrate love.
Does anyone have any thoughts? I want to email him back and say that his actions don't demonstrate love, but I am actually wandering if there is any point in doing so.

I haven't spoken to my father in over a decade because, like you, I found that his actions never translated into love and eventually realised he did not love or value me, only himself.

If my father reached out to me like that I think I would communicate back to him though.
It's your decision, obviously. My sister and I were NC for a couple of years and she recently got back in touch.
I speak to her when she calls but I'm not finding it at all rewarding or affirming.

I have a similar relationship with my sister as well. Because her actions also don't demonstrate love.
I was actually thinking about my father last night, so it's strange that he emailed me in the early hours of the morning.
I know my father calls my mother to ask about me. But picking up a phone is not a difficult task.
I hoped he would actually try and visit me when he was here at Christmas. But I knew that he wouldn't.