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Can a bad marriage get better?

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Hedgyhoggy · 30/07/2020 08:16

Married 18 years but I don’t know where to start when it comes to describing what are relationship is like. I don’t feel loved, respected or valued and he says the same. Discussion of this ends in arguments. I think he is depressed (anxiety over Covid isn’t helping things) I’ve kept asking for marriage counselling, suggested he go to see his doctor but he won’t. We have 3 kids, one of which has Special needs which puts considerable pressure on all of us. I can’t imagine life for them without their father living full time with them. I’m tired out and feel like I’m treading on egg shells. What to do?

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LongPauseNoReply · 30/07/2020 08:18

If there is no abuse or other serious issues then I think yes you can fix it if that is what both of you really want.

Start by actively listening to each other without judgement and go from there. Good luck!

Hedgyhoggy · 30/07/2020 17:21

I was hoping for a little more ‘yeahh it’ll be fine’ Smile. Anyone been where I am?

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Iyiyi · 30/07/2020 17:26

How do you imagine your relationship 10 or 20 years in the future when you don’t have young children?

Hedgyhoggy · 30/07/2020 17:35

As it is now as the child we have who has special needs will be with us or at least not fully independent from us. I do worry that I have a high threshold for putting up with things.

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