Why is it whenever I try to do the right thing it ends up being wrong
DD had her 4th b'day party at the weekend. On the same morning we received an invite from one of her pre-school friends (also I know him and family from ante-natal group)who is having a joint 4th party with another ante-natale group friend who he still see's when he goes to nursery (but she's not at pre-school with DD).
Every other year, despite only seening them at this time we have invited all ante-natale friends to DD's birthday, but this year she had her own friends and I thought seen as we dont see the others anymore there was no point excluding DD's actual friends for her to keep up this yearly trend.
But because of the joint party, when I got the invite I phoned the other LG's mum and left a message explaining about DD's party and her choosing guests etc, but said as DD would be at her party we would love to have her at ours and sorry for short notice etc, but I hoped she could come. (I could squeeze her in because my DN cancelled do to being poorly - not that I told her this bit.)
Also I thought not inviting her and then going to her party would be awkward when asked why DD did nothing this year, knowing she had a party and joint b'day boy came.
But it seems this was the wrong thing to do, as DH see's this family most days when he's at work and this morning he has called to say LG's dad said hello but definatley gave off 'bad vibes'.
I have just come through a major cock up from DS Christening with a salvage friendship and yet here I go again. All I want is to do the right thing by everyone and I've done the wrong thing. Even DH has said he's sick of trying to please everyone.
Now we dont want to go to this joint party because of potential bad feeing, so will give LB from pre-school a present and card when I see his mum.
Also DD has been invited to another AN friends party and I have declined as we could'nt invite her to ours and I know this LG will be there too.