Texting ex

[Cm2308]

Hey, looking for advice and support on what I should do.. I have been with my girlfriend 1 year, she has a 17 month old son with her ex, my problem at the moment in our relationship is she has been constantly texting her ex, she has said it's about her son which is fair enough, but for some reason I don't believe her, anytime my back is turned its constant texting, she won't even show me just for peace of mind.. I'm stuck on what I should do, the love I have for her is unexplainable, I've asked her several times about this issue and it's never changed. I don't mind a conversation about their son, but it's constant all day everyday

Her ex will always be a part of her life as they share a child- as he’s still a baby- you have a VERY long road ahead and you need to consider if you can really handle it? How long had they been split up before she met you op?
I agree all day everyday is excessive and I can’t see anyone that would be ok with that.

If you're not ok with it then you need to split up. You've been together a year, presumably don't live together and don't have shared kids - it's not the end of the world. She's obviously happy with the situation as it is, but you aren't - so you aren't compatible.

I only message the children's father when there is something he needs to know (rarely). Or confirming times. But then things are not friendly on that front for me. It's good they have good communication. But if she isn't prepared to share or be open with her phone it would ring a bell for me.

You haven’t been together very long and you don’t trust her so end it. I’m sure you’ll find unexplainable love with someone else in time.

Trust your gut, constant texting your ex even with children involved is not normal, especially as you say whenever your back is turned, it could be possible that it's not even her ex. Hard to accuse of course but the behaviour does seem dodgy.

I have a 22 month old and we have been split since she was 3 months. We only text if it's about pick ups/dates, medical, behaviour, concerns and maybe the odd cute pic or video. Those texts are probably once a week bar pick up and consist of a maximum of 8 texts between us, sometimes more, sometimes less.

If it is all day, every day, then I think you have a problem.

This is not going to work.
She is too over-invested in her Ex.
This is something you have recognised.
So.... understand that you deserve only the best.
This is not it.
Love unfortunately, is not enough.
You need to end this or give her an ultimatum.
But be aware she will always have her Ex in her life - but lots of daily messages are not necessary.
Unless she can unpick herself from her Ex, this will never work!