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He loves his dog but doesn’t love me

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TrendCboc · 29/07/2020 08:20

My BF has never told me that he loves me. We both have dogs and live separately. He asked me yesterday if he was drowning and my dog was drowning who I’d save. Before I answered I asked him the same question and he replied that he would save his dog.

I’m not hurt as such as it’s such a ridiculous hypothetical situation but I’m worried that this reveals that my feelings for him are stronger than his for me.

Am I just totally overthinking a casual conversation?

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LockdownLump · 29/07/2020 18:43

There's only really one conversation you need to have with him, and that's to tell him it's over.

You've wasted years on this coward.

He hasn't got the balls to end it himself, but believe me, when he meets someone he DOES love, you'll be dumped pretty damn quick.

Don't let him keep using you until he thinks something better has come along.

Dump his sorry ass.

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MrJollyLivesNextDoor · 29/07/2020 18:52

You deserve to be adored

Don't even bother having it out with him, he's told you all you need to know, sadly.

Like a PP said, be terribly busy in a cloud of perfume!

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ekidmxcl · 29/07/2020 19:00

Why bother having a conversation. Just get rid.

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Dery · 29/07/2020 19:06

"Why bother having a conversation. Just get rid."

This. You've already been together for years. That still suits him. It no longer suits you. No-one's at fault but why waste any more time on him if he won't give you what you need?

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Pelleas · 29/07/2020 19:10

What was his reasoning? That's the first question I'd ask.

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Zaphodsotherhead · 29/07/2020 19:22

My XP would cuddle and hug his dog, but he wouldn't hug me.

I kiss my dog and he would say 'that's disgusting', as was letting my own dog lick me.

He's an ex mostly because he tried to grab my dog by the collar and hang her up off the ground to stop her barking. Whilst his dog barking made him put his fingers in his ears.

Men like this aren't meant for relationships.

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TwilightPeace · 29/07/2020 19:25

You’ve been together YEARS and he hasn’t said he loves you?
Time to move on.

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