My boyfriend and I have been together around a year. I have doubts about him and the relationship, which I won't go into here now, but I want to ask for your thoughts on something which has happened on the weekend.
He is part of a running and hiking group with a close knit circle of friends and some acquaintances. I have met most of them, and I really like them - mostly women and some men, similar age and background. He asked if it would be ok for him to go on a week's hiking trip with three of the women, who he has known a long time, and I thanked him for asking me, and that of course that would be fine - I know the women, and I trust him and them.
He was meant to be going on a hike on Sunday and had to leave by a certain hour in the morning, but it fell through when he said the group were being flakey about the meeting up arrangements. Regardless, he rushed me out the door by 9am, so he could go out hiking alone if need be. I didn't even have a chance to finish my breakfast or cup of tea. I felt like crap, and like he could not wait to get rid of me. I told him, that I had come all the way to his place, and did not expect to be hurried out like an unwelcome guest. He said sorry, but that he had to train for the intense hiking week he has planned.
Anyway, the next day, he mentioned that he didn't go out with the group after all, but just with one of the fellow hikers, and then carried out telling me about something else. When I asked him, so who did you hike with, he mentioned a woman's name. He has never told me about her, and I figured out, he would have definitely known he was going hiking with her on Sunday morning when I was with him, because she would have had to travel by train to meet him. I did some online stalking, and she is only 20-21 years old, and he is 44! He has always dated much younger women. The fact that he's never mentioned her, despite talking loads about his other friends all the time, is also a red flag. He also seemed in a very good mood in the morning but he may have just been happy anyway.
I am usually very open, and trusting, and not the paranoid type at all. But this sounds fishy to me. Does it sound suspect to you as well?