did you meet the right one when you weren’t at your best/totally happy with life?

[lemontreess]

People seem to say you need to be at your best to meet the right one etc etc.

I’m happy with my life - it’s full of hobbies, my job and friends. But there’s this sadness for a lack of relationship and family. I have therapy as I think therapy is always good and it has been explored...I am ok alone but it still makes me sad. I also worry about not having time for a family (mid thirties). I don’t want to do it alone.

I worry this will put people off but it’s just how I feel. I can’t help it. Anyone been there but it worked out anyway?

Me. In fact it sounds like I was pretty much the same age / position as you. I actually met DH because I decided that everything else was lovely bar a relationship/family/kids but that just wasn't going to happen now so I'd go online and find a FWB sort instead.

I totally lucked out. Started having fun filthy sex, realised somewhere along the way that the guy was also a really lovely, honest, fun guy who I had loads in common with. Ten years on from our first date we've got two kids and a house and all the family stuff (and can still rock each other's world given the time and space to do so).

I appreciate this isn't a route for everyone and some people have real horrors with the whole friend with benefits thing, but I thank my lucky stars for him every day.