separating and buying out

[littlerainbigheart]

Hi everyone,

i'm going through a horrible time at the moment, but i'll cut to the chase. I am separating from my husband and we have decided that I will try to buy his half of the house and he move out. he just wants his fair share so I'm hoping it won't be too difficult. Problem is no one can tell me what I need to do first, do I talk to a solicitor first, my bank, an independent mortgage advisor? I have no clue. He wont leave until I can offer him his financials and it is being all left up to me to navigate.

Anyone who has been in similar positions can you please help with advice? I literally don't know who to call first.

He won’t be reasonable . If he was a kind, fair and reasonable man then you’d probably still be together.

I’m sure you Want to be “ amicable “ but for many men this means “do my way And let me screw over my own kids “. So forget amicable and see what a solicitor says.

Some women on MN who are in your situation have got 70:30. Your future earning potential has been adversely affected by your career breaks , working part time and having the kids 7 nights a week.

Thank you. You are right of course about being reasonable/amicable. Its infuriating.

70/30, well that's interesting and would certainly be more manageable. It only recently occurred to me that I have lost earnings and promotions since having children.

We agreed our split then I did Nisi and once that was granted solicitor drew up consent order.

That then gets signed off by the judge.the solicitors dealing with sale needed to see a copy of the consent order and they applied to change land registry.

It was a slow process. Approx 9 months from sending off nisi to remortgage. I guess you could remortgage before consent but issue is no financials are set before then so he could come back and ask for more / judge might not agree it.

I got 70/30 but I had actually put in the large deposit before we were married and we had that document drawn up. He was willing to stand by it.

Ahh you didn't mention children in the opening post.

Ours are all grown