Could you see past this?

[RossGellarFan]

You ended a relationship because you loved him but he didn't love you, he only liked you. You weren't really a priority. He was sad. You were heart broken. A year passes. He reappears, is in a much better place mentally (now fully healed post divorce) and says everything you ever wanted to hear, I want to commit let's do it properly etc. You ask and he admits he had a couple of flings during your time apart. Hurts, but it's not your business... but one of the women was someone you always felt jealous of / very threatened by and he knew this. Can you see past it?

a break, so did William and Kate

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@RossGellarFan I like to think I wouldn't- he didn't treat you how you would've wanted last time around.

I think it would depend if he was honest with you first time round. If he was open and said he wasn't ready to commit last time then I think that's ok. You could give it a try but keep your guard up!

No...leave him in the past and find someone else.

It's not meant to be.

Nope. He sounds like a bit of a dog. I would've said yes until I read your last bit about him getting with someone you felt threatened by, someone he was probably chatting up whilst you were together, hence why you felt threatened in the first place.

We were on a break

Just, nah

Nope!

A OP a player. A self absorbed player as they are.
Run for the hills kicking dust in your trail so he can't find you again.

All of what he is telling you is man-code for "I want a shag and you seem convenient"

When you are going into a relationship with your guard up - don't go into the relationship

It didn’t work out with this person who you were worried about and he wants to be with you- embrace it!

^ This
OP, whether you get back with him or not, I think this is one positive you could take from it all perhaps? I think I could get past that side of things, but not sure if I'd get back with an ex again. The only way I'd consider it is if all my concerns about why we split up were addressed and if I believed he was genuine. Only you know that.

I’m in the fence with this one. Could he have sniffed around and realised how good he had it with you and is now thinking you’re a Safe Bet. Is he young or immature? Could just have not been ready to settle down? Is he between shags and just wants to use you while he works on dating Someone Nicer.

People do change. Life changes you. The thing is that you know what he got pissed or bored about before. Would that just happen again? Could he really have moved past that. Only one way to find out but it depends how bad he actually was.

As for the We Were On A Break woman, I wouldn’t bother about that. If you are having self confidence issues you could work on those? If you feel flabby tone up. Get a new hairstyle now the hairdressers are open! Unchallenged mentally do a night school. Find out what you need and do it, be it yoga or crafting. Then you wouldn’t feel threatened by anyone else as you would be more confident.

I think you will always wonder if you don’t date him again but if the potential heartbreak would be a killer don’t go there.

I’m usually a Move Forwards Dont Go Back type of person but sometimes a single step back can put you on a different path. But not half a mile back. I’m in the fence here as I don’t know the full history.

It would be a no from me as I know I would over analyse him and the woman I was threatened by. It would always be this niggle in the back of my mind. A less insecure person might be able to deal with it though.