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Anyone else gone through the criminal court process with abusive ex?

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BPSCSS · 26/07/2020 17:35

I did this week, I thought it would be helpful. They threw the book at him but it opened a huge repressed cauldron of feelings. I feel like I have gone back to stage one- am tearful, overwhelmed and feel in an emotional freefall. My friends came, they were amazing but photos of my injured face was beamed on the huge screens in the court room and I can't get the way that felt out of my head! Handhold please.

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user1465335180 · 26/07/2020 18:41

I'm sorry, this must have stirred up a lot of bad feelings for you. Take a deep breath and let yourself be unhappy until you feel better again. Just because you've done the right thing and gone down the court route doesn't mean you can't feel sad

BPSCSS · 26/07/2020 19:04

Thank you

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AgnesNaismith · 26/07/2020 19:09

Flowers no I haven’t, but I have had to bring it all up again as he was trying to force his way into a place I am every day, knowing I’m there every day.

I had to have counselling as realised I’d pushed so much of it down and repressed memories kept resurfacing. Be kind to yourself and get some therapy x

Alonelonelyloner · 26/07/2020 21:27

I'm over 20 years on and I still have bad days or nightmares about what my ex put me through, the police examinations, the recriminations. I am so sorry OP. I do get it. So many on here will. The pain gets less eventually, but I don't think it ever goes completely.

BPSCSS · 27/07/2020 06:43

That's helpful to know.

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