New boyfriend and conspiracy theories

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A guy I have been seeing for a few months now has made a few comments that are starting to make me think he may have mental health issues.
At first it was the odd comment about JFK being assassinated by the CIA and other popular conspiracy theories and I didn't think too much about it.
The past few weeks however the theories he talks about are becoming more and more outlandish. Illuminati and free masons controlling the world, Hitler saving Europe from being taken over by Muslims, 9/11 an inside job and on and on. He believes in these things 100 percent and thinks the people who dont just haven't been enlightened yet. He thinks he is destined to take over the world and is very sure of himself.
At first I would counter his arguments with rational discussion but he would become so passionate and upset that now I just ignore and try to zone it out.
He smokes weed every day and I think this must be connected but I dont know as I have never tried it.
When he is "normal" he is loving, funny and caring but this part of him is making me avoid meeting him.

So should I tell him I think he is a deluded nutter or just use the old Mumsnet favourite "this is not working for me"?

Yes Shizzlestix it is extremely boring and annoying too that he thinks he is so right and the rest of us are idiots who believe anything the press/government tell us

Another boring common garden pit head. Get rid! How will he cope without being stalked and mooned over on this occasion

This situation isn’t a joke, OP.

Many years ago, a member of my family was smoking way too much skunk, and he started to develop paranoid delusions which sound very similar to those your boyfriend is having. The episode developed into full-blown psychosis and he was sectioned for his own safety after being found on Exmoor In the middle of the night ranting about being the second coming of Jesus. He went on to suffer a very long battle with serious mental health issues.

Be very, very careful, OP. Good luck.

He sounds absolutely awful. His beliefs are not just outlandish (earth is flat etc) - they are deeply nasty and racist. Maybe very handsome but he's good looking on the outside only. Looks are worth nothing when the inside is rotten.

Sorry - missed that you have decided to end it. Just tell him it isn't working for you. He's so convinced that he and his nasty right wing conspiracy theorist friends are right and everyone sensible and decent is wrong that anything else will just be a waste of breath.

I'm glad to see you're going to end it. But you need to do some thinking about what you really want, and what your boundaries / expectation are before you start dating again.

This man had even the smallest bit of positivity about Hitler and yet you continued to see him?

He smokes weed every day and is clearly paranoid and yet you continued to see him?

He thinks he is destined to take over the world and yet you continued to see him?

Raise your bar - this shouldn't have lasted a few months!

Agreed @backseatcookers and @Dery

Definitely cut this crazy one lose.

He smokes weed every day and I think this must be connected but I dont know as I have never tried it

First question I was going to ask.

He's a weed smoker, and they're not worth bothering with. He's better off dumped.

I dated a guy for 16 months who thought the world was flat. He seemed normal at first.

I dont think it's just the weed and conspiracy theories that are the problem though. Those alone would just make him a bit quirky. But he sounds totally enamoured with himself. A narcissist.

Tell him it's not working for you. And block him on everything before he has the chance to 'perusade' you that you are 'wrong' or emotionally manipulate through cralockadile tears or other guilt tripping.

Crockadile

Fs, crocodile xD

There's only one thing worse than a conspiracy theorist, and that's a right wing, racist conspiracy theorist. Very much worse.

He has a full-time, highly skilled job, his own house and car although I have yet to meet any friends.

In my personal experience of someone like this - they were sacked for being anti-Semitic, could never get on with authority (ie boss), lost job after job and ended up in a lot of debt.

Not surprised you haven’t met his friends yet.

He is mentally unwell. It will get worse. Nothing you can do to save him.

I have bipolar and the first time I had mania/hypomania it was triggered partly by having a boyfriend share his spliffs with me.

The thinking he'll take over the world is grandiose delusions and could be part of bipolar. It's definitely more concerning than the believing a crock of shit, though that's bad enough.

I would definitely not see him again.

The women stalking him bit does sound more like a narc maybe. Either way, not good.

You could tell him in your final message or whatever that you think he may have mental health issues (not that he'll listen.)

I wouldn't even want to see him to split up with him.

tells lots of tales of women stalking him and being unable to move on after him

Yeah but he's also certain he's going to take over the world so he may not be the most reliable narrator, eh?

Very handsome; uuugh it's so tough when hot and crazy come on the same package, your fanny and brain are completely at odds .... But the fact is that crazy must trump hot, or you're setting yourself up for disaster.

Back away carefully, have a well thought out exit plan with all bases covered, possibly a "relocation" forced by work or something (as long as you wouldn't see each other around) and hopefully he'll focus o one of his "stalkers" or hook Someone else in for a while with his good looks and (short-term) apparent plausibility.

I wouldnt bother telling him you think he has issues. It wont help and may just make him difficult.

He does sound unhinged and modern weed is a bad thing.

Dont blame yourself. These sorts can be very alluring and charismatic at first.

His name doesnt begin with M by any chance ?

Why was he sectioned just for believing something stupid?

Well obviously it wasn't just that but thinking you are Jesus is not "believing something stupid" it's delusion. He was seriously ill. I was just trying to relate to what the OP said about her partners delusions of grandeur.

Im not so much a conspiracy theorist but i enjoy researching popular ones and really.. there's a lot in it. Tinking ur going to take over the world is not quite right but i wonder if he says it in a joke because hes off on one

Dont blame yourself. These sorts can be very alluring and charismatic at first.

What? A Nazi sympathiser.

Weed, YouTube and lazy thinking... RUN!

Run. Quickly. Far. Now. Leave him behind. Don’t tell him he is ‘nuts’ just say it’s run its course and isn’t what you want right now.
Good luck.