Dating younger men

[wheresmolly]

How much younger would you go? I'm just interested in people's view on this, not because I am dating someone younger. It was just a thought that was prompted by guys who have messaged me on online dating sites with profiles they say they are X age but then say in their message "I'm actually 10 years younger but this was the only way to match".

I don't like this approach as it seems a bit underhand but it made me wonder how much of an age gap you'd be happy with? E.g. I am 40 and up until now I've just been looking at guys who are max. about 4 years older or younger than me.

I’d go 10 years, no more than 15 max

Depends if you’re looking to settle down or just dating

I was with someone for 5 years who was 12 years younger.
He's now with a woman who is 22 years older than him, despite him constantly telling me I was too old and he wanted someone young and pretty...... but I think he's got deep psychological issues arising from problems with his family and his mother in particular.

Yes, I would still date and have fun with someone up to 10 years younger but I probably wouldn't want to get into a serious relationship with someone that much younger again. More than 10 years and I'd say no, it's too much. If I did want to embark on a serious relationship I'd be looking at someone within 5 years either side of my own age. (I'm early 40s).

I suppose it depends what you're looking for. If you're looking for exciting dates, lots of sex and lots of adventure then it can be great with a younger man. If you're dating with a view to something serious, I'd be careful - especially if you or he want to have children at some point. Also be wary of a younger man telling you they absolutely don't want children because they can change their mind.
I've never wanted children. My ex told me he didn't want them. Then he started behaving aggressively and abusing alcohol and claimed it was because he decided he wanted children after all. Now he's with this older woman so I imagine the same thing happening there with her.
I know not all men are like my ex, I'm just suggesting you look at what your aims are with online dating and proceed accordingly.

My last boyfriend was 10 years younger than me, we didn't notice the gap at all.
He could at least keep up with me

If you are looking for fun, company, sex, something casual etc., and are not the type to catch feelings .. it doesn't matter.

If you're looking for a lasting relationship, and/or are the type to catch feelings; I'd swerve significantly younger men.

The majority of the ones on old are trying to.merf older women in order to tick their milf/cougar check box. And will dump/move on when the novelty wears off/they meet a new milf/they meet a woman closer to their age etc.

I've also heard and seen some pretty cynical, unpleasant things from young men about pursuing older women, just a few nuggets;

"They're easier, they're desperate, they're grateful, they cook, they're sexually experienced, they're sexually open to anything, they're less hassle, they can't get pregnant so you can go with condoms without worrying" etc etc.

These young men are obviously going to say none of that to your face. Bug just be very aware that's how some of them think. I've read many a discourse on a fitness forum I used to frequent about how much easier older women are for getting sex (and a bit if TLC, and in some cases provided for) than "spoilt, entitled, flaky, too many options" young women.

Even their approach in purposefully ignoring a woman's filters/age limits and lying about their age in order to communicate with them, goes to show they're willing to be dishonest, manipulative, chance their arm etc.

If you want a nice young bod in your bed for a few weeks, entertain them. Of not .....

25 year age gap with me and my fiancé and we couldn't be happier

We have evidence to show that I'd go eighteen years ten months. And we suspect I'd go maybe twenty seven years.
Which is only fair, as I went twenty seven years older, in my youth.
Fun. Only fun.
The serious ones, seven years younger or maybe two or three years older. Ten years at the most.

DH is ten years younger than me. 1st H was 12 years older ( and violent) 2nd was some age and cheated.

We are about to celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary.

I was 37 and he 27 when we met.

We have no children, although I have a 4 year old son, and we brought up our first grandaughter from the age of 2, when her mother lost custody and DS wasnt able to take her.

My last long term (14 years) relationship was with a guy 8 years younger than me, the age difference was irrelevant and never an issue. Most guys I go for our younger (I’m in my 50s). Not sure I’d date anyone more than 8/10 years younger and no more than 3/4 years older, but, never say never!!

It’s such a personal preference and also depends on the individual man. But personally, I wouldn’t ever go younger. I like an older man, always have. But there’s plenty of older men out there who do nothing for me, so it’s definitely about the man concerned.