Girlfriends ex doesn’t want me around there son

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Hey. Hope someone can help. I’ve been with my girlfriend for 11 months now. I’ve been in her sons life from the very start. My girlfriend and I had a massive fall out a few weeks ago. I ended up leaving our home. We are now working on our relationship and it seems to be going great. Our problem now is her ex doesn’t want me around her son again. I’ve never done anything wrong on him and I’ve never been violent in anyway towards my girlfriend. The only issue we have had is we argued and I left. Her son was not there when we had the argument and he’s never been around anytime we have argued. Her ex is now threatening that if I’m around her son again he will take her to court. Can he get his son taken off her over our argument?

No of course not that's ridiculous providing everything you say is true. It isn't up to an ex who the child sees.
They will only interven is somebody is getting abused or witnessing a toxic relationship.

You should never have been around her son from the 'very beginning'. The relationship should have been secure and long term before a slow introduction to her child. That's the first lack of judgement. You obviously moved in far too quickly - it's been less than a year and you've already moved in and out. Second lack of judgment. You're arguing enough during what should be the honeymoon period (not right even after the homeymoon period) that you've moved out and think that arguing is ok cos you don't actually do it in front of the child as it won't affect him. Third and fourth lack of judgement.

I'm not surprised her ex has issues with this relationship and is concerned for his child.

Until the relationship is stable and long term there is no reason why you should be around her son.

I wouldn't be happy with you being around 'from the very beginning'. That's irresponsible.

Always find it a bit suspicious when someone says 'I've never been violent' without being prompted. Though maybe that's my cynical side.

Very unlikely he will have child taken away but could get 50/50 (which isn't necessarily a bad thing)

You've been in their sons life right from the start? Why?

Moving in with someone and their child would be a big step 11 months in. You've only been together that long and say you've been around from the start.

You had a massive falling out? Was it physical? Did it get really nasty?

He's never been around 'any time you've argued'? That implies it's a fairly regular occurrence?

Why do you need to be around her son? Why can't she work this out with her sons father and have some space from you?

It's all moved way too quickly, you should just be getting to know her son never mind living together.
The ex is bothered about the new guy moving in with his son then disappearing then coming back. Not a surprise he feels like that.

Also, arguing and storming out is not something that should happen in front of a child, you both need to control your emotions in front of children.

Sorry, just seen that didn't happen in front of child.