How to proceed.

[C0rdelia]

On Sunday night we watched a DVD. A DVD we had watched 1000s times before.
We went from happily watching to Defcon5 because I fast forwarded a 5 minute sex scene. Seen 1000s before.

Unbelievable rage accusing me of censoring what he watches. Accused of being a dried up woman.

We have not spoken since Sunday. Tonight we tried to have a conversation. I have to apologise for fast forwarding the sex scene.

Did you (understandably) fast forward it because it might've given him ideas; to stop the stroppy arsehole trying to pester you for sex?

I agree with him
If I am watching a film with someone they don’t get to fast forward it without my agreement.
Your argument that you’ve seen the film thousands of times makes no sense. What not just fast forward the whole film!
If this is the way you often behave maybe he finally cracked and lost it with you

Been like this for a long time but normally when he goes mad, I apologise (for god knows what) but this time I can’t apologise for being screamed at.

You’re concentrating on fast forwarding, which I stopped, and not on the reaction to to FF.

You’re getting an unbelievable amount of stick here. Rage and the stonewalling and subsequent gaslighting isn’t ideal behaviour. Is he always like this?

Ok. I deserved it. I’ll apologise.

What are you on? You'd throw a frothing rage and give your partner the silent treatment for 4 days over fast-forwarding a movie? Nuts.

Have you considered leaving him, OP?

When I said overreaction I meant he has overreacted. Not you. Just to clarify. This level of rage over most things is unacceptable.

Arbitrarily deciding to fast forward a film two people are watching, without warning, isn’t ideal behaviour either though. It’s a bit controlling.

Please don't pay attention to the very odd people who have responded to your thread, OP. His behaviour is extreme and unwarranted.

I don't understand why you FF in the first place, and in a normal relationship that could seem odd and annoying. But it does sound like you're not in a normal relationship and might be better seeking to end it.

And when he didn't like it, she offered to rewind again, edwinbear. But he went bananas instead.

His reaction is clearly OTT and unacceptable but I’d also find your behaviour unacceptable too.
If a partner FF a film we were watching for no reason I’d see it as a red flag and pull him up on it

They're scarcely on the same level tho, are they?! What the hell?

Fast-forwarding a scene without asking, and offering to rewind when he objected

versus

a screaming rage-fit and 4 days of silent treatment.

Red flag, my arse.

His actual abuse you're minimising.

I agree. Red flag, my arse. Away with you!

I have fast forwarded through the battle scenes in Lord of The Rings before... and I didn’t ask my dh!
Red flags all over the place!

I assume the sex scene skipping was for the same reason as the battle scene...long, overblown, no need to see everyone slugging it out another time.

There.is.no.excuse.for.this. despite the film critics posting on here prior. To call you a dried up woman is beyond the pale. He's a nasty motherfucker