Dating at the Moment

[wednesdaycake]

From reading threads on here it seems people are going on socially distanced dates.

I'm on a dating site and I've been chatting to a few guys but none of them have asked me to meet up.

I was on the same dating site in my 40s on and off and had quite a few dates.

I'm now in my early 50s and don't know whether my age is a factor in not getting dates or if it is to do with Covid-19 and being reluctant to meet.

I'm not looking for hookups and the men I am chatting to don't seem to be either. I'm not forward enough to ask anyone out.

Any thoughts or anyone with similar experiences? Thanks

Not sure what others do but I generally get it into chat in a low key way.

For example:

“Good night! If you fancy continuing this conversation/discussion about Brexit over coffee/something stronger some time let me know I’m on 876543368”

Soft sell - you’re not asking him out but hopefully he’ll pick up the ball and it’s just a case of finding a time and somewhere central.

If they’re evasive then I assume they’re just there to online chat or don’t have time/inclination to meet or are misrepresenting themselves or dating someone else.

In general I find it’s just organising after this.

Maybe talk on phone or do a video call before if one of you is travelling and it’s a big effort to meet/make time.

You’ll already know this, but be wary of guys who try to subtly change plans or steer things in the “meet at mine/pub near to me/next to yours” direction (if you’re not keen on hookups).

@Bunkbedpeople thanks so much for your reply. That's a good suggestion about giving my phone number and suggesting a meet up rather than directly asking someone out.

It's transpired that a guy I was chatting to has been very busy this week hence the lack of messages. I

I can usually recognise all the red flags for men who want hookups. I have even been propositioned outright in a pub and this is someone I met on a paying site. I couldn't wait to leave lol. I guess that's a whole different thread