But if history my husband and I have been together 11 years we have a 6 DS 4DS and 4 month old DD. When I was pregnant on his Christmas night out he stayed out till 5 am and I found messages on our iPad from hookers phone numbers. I was devastated and confronted him. He apologised and promised nothing happened and said it was for a single friend they were trying to "finish his dry spell" . I believed him and we worked through it. Welcomed our daughter via forceps birth. We have tried to get our sex Life back on track but I still have pain from my birth . He had been really moody with me recently and acting off so I just looked at his internet history I. His phone as I felt paranoid. I found links to webcam sites. I don't know what to think, or do. I'm exhausted from being up every night feeding the baby and keeping older kids entertained during day. Would this be a deal breaker for you? Would you class this as cheating? Thanks an exhausted mum