Deflated

[TheresGotToBeMoreToLife]

I have a rough time during lockdown (single mum to 2) so decided to try online dating again to see what was out there.

Immediately struck a match with a lovely guy, on paper he sounded great and I found him attractive too. We met last Wednesday after a week of chatting, had a nice walk around a local town and a drink in the pub. We really hit it off, got on well and laughed a lot. We parted ways and later that evening he texted to say it was great to meet and we should do it again soon. I agreed and he asked me for a drink this coming friday, saying he would travel to me. Yay!

However those texts were exchanged last Thursday night and I've not heard from him since. I wasnt going to hound him as I'd sent the last msg, so I left it till today (tues) and dropped him a message saying 'hope all is ok, are you still up for meeting on friday?' and have heard nothing back so I'm assuming it's off.

I feel so deflated. Why arrange a second date when hes not interested? This reminds me exactly what I hate dating.

I wouldn’t assume it’s off. Maybe he’s having a hard time at work or something. Wait till end of day tomorrow to assume it’s off.

Sorry op this is the work of online dating most men will only meet up with you for one thing , if they don't get it they either try again acting all lovely or just like what's happened to you now they have met somone else on line who they think in their desperate head is 'better' or is actually getting what he wants ! I could be wrong and if I am I am really sorry ❤️ but my friends have gone through this so many times . Youl prob hear off him in a month and garantee you it won't be sorry I don't reply it will be hi how are you ? Round two for him to try again lol xxx

Yes agree with PP

In this case I would guess:

Had a good date with you. Good enough to arrange a second. In that time, met or began speaking to someone better suited.

It happens. Don't give up because the first guy isn't your happy ever after.

That’s OLD unfortunately. Lots of flakes and men who are only interested in sex - as well as some good ones! If you’re going to continue, you need a thick skin and a good bullshit detector.

There’s a good OLD thread in Relationships which I really recommend.

yep, these are the types who drove me insane. I also hated the ones who made the first contact, Messaged all the time and initiated a date, then cancel with an excuse and disappear.
There is a good chance this guy has been dating others so maybe just hit it off more with someone else. Maybe he got back with an ex. Maybe he wasn't actually serious about dating and just changed his mind.
You can waste lots of time wondering but you'll probably never know. I'm sorry its made you feel deflated, its hard not to when you think you have finally found someone nice.
One thing I would say is, if he suddenly re-appears further down the line because the other woman didn't work out I would ignore him.

If a man is interested in you he makes is known and obvious. Personally, I wouldn’t settle for less. Find someone better OP.