Hello people. Hope everyone is doing fine in this pandemic.
I (24years) was in a relationship with a guy (28years) for 3years. From this year February we have been going through alot of disturbances regarding the future as i am an hindu and he is a muslim. He strictly said he can only marry me if I convert. Without nikah the marriage is not accepted in his religion. I was not really ready to take that step since I am not in a religious person nor do I believe in god. Initially I told him to accept me as I am and asked him that we will do registered marriage but he was not agreeing and sticked to only one thing that is i have to convert. After alot of discussions I decided to end this as it is not gng to work out and asked him to move on. He said he cant leave me and asking me to think about what he said. Though i asked him to move on and decided to end this relationship I couldn't do that as well. Since feb, we used to text each other very rare than usual. He used to text me saying he misses me and loves me and waiting for me to think about what he said. I used to text him the same. And on may 30th he text me stating he cant leave without me and said he is waiting for a miracle to happen and my mind to change. I wanted him too but not at the cost of loosing myself. I also told him that I am ready for the conversion but asked him to give me some liberal to live my life the way I want and not to put restrictions as every muslim family do usually. He said he cant promise on that and restrictions are must. With these words i was too afraid to accept the conversion. That is why I told to put an end to the relationship. I also told him that I will also be waiting for him to come and hold my hand and accept me the way I am. Neither of us were moving on. We were stuck at our own decisions to take the relationship further. After may 30th he didnt text me. I texted him on june 2nd saying i really love him and I'll be waiting for him to take a decision. He ignored and I had been doing research and seeking advice from muslim frnds regarding the conversion. After which i have decided to convert and told him my decision on june 16th. To my surprise he said he moved on already. I was willing to do everything what he said because he is not taking any step hence i thought i will take a step to keep this relationship. I was really looking forward to see him happy by hearing my decision but he only said he moved on and asked me to move on. He said its better we marry the ones our parents choose and our relationship is not going to work out and there would be a lot of complications. I kept requesting him not to do this and begged him not to move on. The next day i called him and he said he is going to get married soon. After listening to this I rushed to his place and we met near his home. I was trying my best to sort things out . I asked him to give me a second chance as I pushed him away saying i will not convert. Though it was not my mistake. Am I wrong in expecting my man to marry me the way I am without converting me ? But I was ready to do everything for our marriage. He was not giving me any reason for moving on. He just says i moved on and you should move on too. He said if its meant to be, time will put everything back together and he asked me to go back home. I was waiting for a month for him to text me. I used to call and text him but he blocked me everywhere. When I stalked his fb from my brothers facebook, there was a new girl who reacted to his cover picture which i felt something suspicious. I opened her account and see that she works in the same company as well. I and him work in the same company.
Now the important part is: He once told me that I don’t have any rights on him when I last met him. He didn’t allow me to hold his hand when i tried too when i last met him. His whatsapp status always shows online, his number will always be busy in odd times whenever i tried to contact him from my family members phone since he blocked my number. I got promoted in the meanwhile to HR operations role. I shared this thing with him via office chat group and he ignored it completely. He didn’t even congratulate me. I felt something fishy. I could sense there is some other girl in his life but I blamed myself for assuming things since I know the kind of a person he is. I believed he wouldn’t go for another girl , atleast this soon.
After checking this girls account, i felt like she must be in his life. She almost gave love reaction to all of his recent pictures he uploaded on his FB. I texted him on our office chat bridge since I had no other source of communication. I asked him if she is the reason behind leaving me without a proper explanation? Is she in his life. I asked him many questions yet he ignored everything. My world started falling down my heart was aching. I requested him to let me know the truth so that I can move on and do not be stuck like this. He ignored. I had no other way other than calling the girl. I took her number from our workstation. I called her and introduced myself as his girlfriend and asked if she knew him. She said yes. I asked if they are in relationship for which she denied in the beginning to tell saying its private. But after speaking to her and explaining my problem, she concluded that they are in relationship since two months and their parents spoke to get them married. I was dead. Couldn’t speak a word. I told her to call him once and put him on conference. She did what i requested. I spoke to him in sorrow, angry. I asked him why didn’t he tell me the truth when i was begging him. He just says he moved on and yes he loves her and wants to continue with her. I couldn’t say anything other than disconnecting the call. I couldn’t get over this and was still thinking he might accepted this marriage for family for religion. I kept texting him all day and night. I was asking him to break this match and come back since we love eachother and he cant do that to me. I was under impression that he is doing all this to forget me and do not have guts to talk at home about us. I didn’t sleep the whole night and in the morning i kept calling him but he blocked my number. I decided to go to his home and confess everything to his parents so that they might understand us and accept our love. I went to his home and spoke to his parents. His dad said its between me and him so you guys talk and decide what to do. I asked his parents who is this new girl and they say we thought of fixing this match but it didn’t work out. I don’t understand why these guys are in contact then. I went back home and he called me and said he is coming to meet me with the new girl. I asked him what is the problem. Religion problem is sorted, parents problem is sorted( my parents accepted our love as well) and why are you still asking me to move on. He said he doesn’t have feeling for me and asked me to move on. He yelled at me for coming to his home and he was threatening me that if i ever call him again he is gonna break my ass. He gave bad words and so did I. I vent out my pain and anger for not telling me the truth and leaving me just like that in 15days. I gave myself to him. I gave my virginity and I also had an abortion where he left me and came back a year ago. After all this, he just left me now and in a new relationship with a new girl. Just in 15days of not talking to each other. I’m all broken and I couldn’t get over this.