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DP lying about messages?

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GenUnsure · 21/07/2020 16:18

DP was away this weekend and I sent some messages on Friday night which registered as delivered (full coloured box with tick). He didn't read them for about 24 hours and when he came back he claimed that he hadn't seen them because he had no reception. But they were delivered???? Just not opened?

He was somewhere remote so it's plausible he had no reception but I'm confused as to how these msgs registered as delivered but yet he says he didn't see them because no reception?

He's got form for lying and this could well be the death of the relationship so any knowledge would be appreciated.

Ps. NC for this but long time member.

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Burpalot · 21/07/2020 16:34

WhatsApp messages?
Maybe he means he wasn't checking notifications or opening the app. Maybe he couldn't be arsed to read and reply.
Only you know. You obviously think he's lying. I don't think anyone is going to offer any meaningful alternatives

FlashesOfRage · 21/07/2020 16:37

If it’s WhatsApp then his version of events would show as a single grey tick next to the messages you sent when you checked.

Two grey ticks is they arrived but he hasn’t read them and two blue ticks is they arrived and he’s read them.

💐

Original poster
GenUnsure · 21/07/2020 16:53

Sorry, meant to say that it was FB messenger.

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nolovelost · 21/07/2020 16:58

Maybe he wanted a message free weekend? What has he lied about before?

nolovelost · 21/07/2020 17:01

When he read them after 24 hours, did he reply?

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GenUnsure · 21/07/2020 17:03

I wouldn't have batted an eyelid if he'd said that he just didn't check his phone. It was the way that he said it was the reception issue. He volunteered the reason, I hadn't asked.

God, he's lied about loads of things, from watching porn to how much money he spends on his bike. I don't care about either of these things, it's when he's caught in the lie that it bothers me.

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Sugartitties · 21/07/2020 17:03

if you’re relationship is at the point where it could end because of this then it’s time to go

Original poster
GenUnsure · 21/07/2020 17:05

No. He replied about 12 hours later when he got back to his car.

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nolovelost · 21/07/2020 17:13

What kind of things did you put in the messages? When did you see him before the Friday, could it be that he see's you as being needy?

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GenUnsure · 21/07/2020 17:36

Tbh it was actually me who requested a message free weekend but there was an emergency with our dog.

I just want to know whether a full grey circle with a tick in it definitely means that it's been delivered and is available for reading from that point on.

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SergioAg · 21/07/2020 17:48

No. If it was delivered it would turn into a blue tick, not a grey one. He hasn’t done anything wrong.

SergioAg · 21/07/2020 17:49

Easy to Google. m.facebook.com/help/messenger-app/926389207386625?helpref=uf_permalink

Burpalot · 21/07/2020 17:49

Op Google it and look at the icons. Blue circle means it's sending, blue circle with checkmark means it's been sent. Filled in blue circle means delivered. A small version of your friends photo will pop up when they've read it.

nolovelost · 21/07/2020 17:52

Well they delivered so he's telling porkies.

Leaspr · 21/07/2020 17:53

Blue With tick means it’s been delivered, grey means they haven’t received it yet

nolovelost · 21/07/2020 17:54

Wait, you say coloured in your OP did you mean blue? That means delivered. Messenger doesn't do grey circles or boxes! Confused

Natureotter · 21/07/2020 19:32

Yes he’s Lieing. He just hasn’t opened them if they delivered with blue circle tick.
I would be pissed

booboo24 · 21/07/2020 20:26

I thought a grey circle with a tick meant it wasn't delivered

omg35 · 21/07/2020 20:28

Same thing happened to me this week. I'd gone shopping and texted DP to say I was ready to be picked up. It showed as delivered but he says it never came through so maybe there was an issue

Leaspr · 21/07/2020 21:53

Grey circle tick DOES mean that it HASN’T gone through to them yet.
Blue means that it has.
Then their profile pic is in the circle once they’ve read the message

Clumsyduck · 21/07/2020 21:56

I think of you don’t have notifications on it won’t actually ping up on the phone so you have to actually go into messenger to see the message . That’s how I have mine . the message May still Show as delivered though ?

Or it might come up and unless your looking at your phone at that time you don’t see it ? Also could genuinely just be a network thing , iv had people message me before altho not on FB messenger but whatsapp and then message hours later wondering why I haven’t replied so that in itself wouldn’t make me concerned however if he has form for lying that’s a separate issue

Clumsyduck · 21/07/2020 21:56

As in I never received the message at my end or didn’t receive it untill much later

PippinMeriadoc · 21/07/2020 22:01

It might have delivered but by the time he went to open it they don’t always load if there’s no 4g xx

BurtsBeesKnees · 21/07/2020 22:07

Maybe he left his phone in the car, they delivered but he didn't see them until he got to the car?

notsodimwit · 22/07/2020 03:28

If it was an emergency about the dog why didn't you just ring him? Confused

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