A girl who I hung around with several years ago, as part of a group on nights out, never got to know her really well but she seemed nice.
She had a boyfriend and I met him 2/3 times.
They broke up around 3 years ago now, and I haven't seen her since. She's very close friends with our mutual friend and they talk every day, however she hasn't made much effort to stay in contact.
I've messaged her every few months i'd say, and she would reply but often after 10 days, or just not reply at all, so I gathered that she wasn't too fussed about me, even if her replies were friendly, I felt like it was more polite small talk.
With the mutual friend on the other hand, they speak every day and are very close.
I unexpectedly got in touch with her ex, we spent months talking during lockdown, developed feelings and we are now together which is really nice.
I have the girl on Facebook and she became suspicuous because we were commenting on each other's pages or whatever. Also, our mutual friend had told her that I had spoken to him (this was at the very start)
I felt guilty in a way but I don't think i'm doing anything wrong. It wasn't him who ended it, and they both said they were not happy together, I think she may have cheated but i'm not certain and have no proof. She has been with someone else now for over 2 years and lives with him.
Anyway, she doesn't really contact me first and clearly doesn't consider me a good friend so why should I ask her 'permission'? I thought I would tell her out of courtesy but that's it.
I wanted to wait until it was sure and official between us, but she messaged me very angry messages saying that she had seen our social media activity, how disrespectful I was, how she would 'never do that to anybody' how 'wrong' it was and that I 'needed to stop'.
She then said it was so weird to imagine us together.
I felt very bad because I had no intention of upsetting or hurting her and didn't want her to feel that way.
She told me she doesn't have any feelings and that he is perfectly allowed to move on (but apparently im not)
I just found it bizarre that she's had another boyfriend for 2 years yet is so angry about what her ex from years ago is doing ?
It also felt like she can pick and choose when i'm her friend, when it suits her.
I don't think i've been out of line ? I'm prepared for harsh replies but I don't think she had the right to talk to me like that. I was really sorry she was upset but looking back, it isn't her business.