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Need Advice!!!

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Glitterball18 · 21/07/2020 08:03

So I'm engaged to an amazing man but lately he hasn't been himself. I get during lockdown has been stressful and we are behind on bills and he feels he's not looking good and stuff. Exactly how I've been feeling but he's changed by hardly helping with our daughter I'm the one what changes all nappies, feeds her, bathes her and gets up early or if she wakes up in the night. It doesn't bother me but I feel like I'm getting no support. My little girl is 6 months she woke up this morning at 4 for around 1hr then woke up for the day at half 7 and at half 7 she cried and it didn't even wake him as before it did. He's very sensitive and I feel like if I tell him he will take it to heart and think he's a bad dad. Please help anyone??

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hellsbellsmelons · 21/07/2020 09:45

Well he is a bad dad.
He is not doing his fair share of child care.
He needs to step up and you need to tell him this.
Sod his sensitivity.
He needs to be a parent and he needs to do some parenting.
Stop doing it all for him.
You are enabling this.
Have a discussion today about how you split things.
So... he changes the afternoon nappy. He gets up at the 7:30am waking. He does bath time every other day and on the other days he puts to her to bed.
Get him to do what needs to be done.
He doesn't get to opt out because he is 'sensitive'
He sounds fucking lazy to be honest.
Don't confuse the 2.
Stop enabling his laziness.
He needs to get involved!

puzzledpiece · 21/07/2020 10:13

Exactly what @hellsbellsmelons says! ^^

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