Would this upset you?

[IvyLovesWales]

Today is my birthday, I've been with my boyfriend for two years. He stays at my house all weekend and goes to work from mine on a Monday morning my house is closer to his work than his place.

He decided to go home to his place straight from work and sit on his own and not spend my birthday evening with me. We're both in our early 50's and there is a distinct lack of effort from him recently.

He got me the birthday present I wanted, but handed it over in the box unwrapped on Friday while I was working. Why not wait until today?

He's distant, no affection and sex is all on his terms. If I try to discuss it on Friday he will gaslight me. So am I being a princess or am I right to be pissed off at his lack of effort.

Sorry name change there, I've had a few! 😉

Thank goodness OP.
Well done.
Reading your posts I just didn't see the point of him at all.
What a loser he is.
Block him on everything so you aren't tempted to take him back.
I'm 51 and I love my single life and I certainly wouldn't trade it in for anything other than extraordinary!!!

Happy birthday! Give yourself the best present imaginable by dumping him.

Well done! What a lovely birthday present to gift yourself - to get rid of him

Happy Belated Birthday, good for you, know your worth he doesn't deserve you!

Happy birthday

You gave yourself the best present of all, a new start

You deserve better

The relationship is very convenient for him. He sounds very selfish. He should have made you feel special on your birthday. What’s the point staying with him when he doesn’t feel the same You shouldn’t have to point it out to him he should have done something nice for you but he can’t be bothered. I would be very upset and I would dump him Hope you have a good birthday regardless and can spend it with friends or family who spoil you x

Oh god, give yourself a bloody great birthday treat and dump this man's arse.

He's horrible. I know you don't want to be alone but it would be a million times better than living with him.

He won't stay at mine in the week, 'he likes his own space'! He arrives on a Friday leaves Monday morning.

So you're just his weekend entertainment, then?

Fuck that, OP - definitely get rid!

Happy Birthday, give yourself the best present. A new start without him. Think of it as a positive

I would break up with him.

@DumpedByText

Great that you've dumped him. Good for you! Onwards and upwards!

@IvyLovesWales

He won't stay at mine in the week, 'he likes his own space'! He arrives on a Friday leaves Monday morning.

I know I'm wasting my time with him, he's adamant we won't live together. I need to get a backbone and dump him I know.

When you're ready, you'll manage it. Start by appreciating yourself - spend some time taking care of yourself; reading; catching up with friends; clothes, hair, whatever is your thing. Your strength will grow and one day it'll be easy to say your worth more. But it's like over eating or having a poor relationship with food - forgive yourself if today, just isn't 'the day'

Well done OP.. so glad to hear you got rid of him.. enjoy your wonderful freedom with your daughter

Well done you! Don't forget to look after yourself. Onwards and upwards

'Sex on his terms' - that is quite a thing to put up with - nobody should, ever. Glad you got rid

@hellsbellsmelons

Thank goodness OP. Well done. Reading your posts I just didn't see the point of him at all. What a loser he is. Block him on everything so you aren't tempted to take him back. I'm 51 and I love my single life and I certainly wouldn't trade it in for anything other than extraordinary!!!

This ^^

I remember thinking exactly the same when I finally dumped the a’hole after 26 years. I loved single life so much that I knew it would take someone really special to change that!

Well done OP! Now crack open a bottle of bubbly and celebrate! Life begins at 51!

You learned a mega valuable lesson in all this. AND taught that to your dd!

Well done

He sounds a bit like my ex, would go out of his way to ruin or mar special occasions, birthdays - mine mostly, but he did it to our ds too. Good riddance to bad rubbish!

Well done for dumping. He was having the life of riley with no regard for your feelings. He's extremely selfish. I better he barely contributed when he was at yours on the weekends too!
Enjoy being free of him and if he does meet someone else, feel sorry for her.

Is his name Andrew?

A very Belated "Happy Birthday" @IvyLovesWales @DumpedByText. You definitely have yourself a great birthday present! No more grumpy bugger taking space in your life or your home.

I hope you and DD had lots of 🎂! This 🌹🍷 is for you.

Well done and happy birthday!