When he refuses to move out would you move out with ur toddler??

[Gizmo100]

You will see from a previous post my husband of 4 years wishes to seperate but under Scots Law we are both legally okay to stay in the house.

It is of course awful staying in the same house since i have a 19 month old daughter who is definately picking up on the vibes. I have asked him time and time again to please move out (he can go bk to his mum and dads hse as they are in Australia for a month and have a big hse) and he refuses saying he will move when the house is sold (its not even in the market due to his dilly dallying). My lawyer said if i move out with my daughter and dog! it wont make any diffence to finance split and access but I have my mum and dad telling me to stay. Although they are supportive people cant believe how i cant stay there with him.

I am diazapam (never been on anything like that in my life) and now on anti D;s (again never been on b4 in my life).

I think my mum and dad are from the point there are 3 of us and one of him and why shld he be in the nice hse when we are in temp accom but my mum and dad dont need to live with him on a daily basis!!

What would you do?

Can you get through to him that if he moves out you can put the house on the market and do all the work selling it eg chasing solicitors, viewings etc. But you can't focus on that while you are trying to protect DD from the bad vibes. If you can convince him you are doing him a favour and that he has every reason to trust you.

You know Bouquets Ive tried it your way and he isnt interested. Ive been really nice and charming and it hasnt worked - tried to really sell how much better it would be but not interested. He has told me his friends think its weird he has called time on the marriage but is still living here and he mistakingly told me his parents told him also to move out. Unfortunately as ive told my lawyer when my husband gets good advice he is very likely to ignore it and do his own thing which I hope will make him slip up big style as things progress.

Mary - Im heaving a load of my belonging into storage next week and on holiday a week on Monday (my husband pushed to book a holiday 2 days before he announced the seperation) so I will be moving out in two weeks time. You know I dont think I will even tell him I am leaving - I know that sounds harsh but he honestly doesnt deserve any niceness after what he has put my daughter and I through.

Move out.

I did it with dd1 when she was 18mths - lived with mum and dad for 6mths until I could get my own place.

It was tough but completely the right thing to do and couldn't have worked out better in the end.

Also - friend of mine did it with 2 boys (6 & 8) and lived in rented accommodation because her dh refused to move.

And one toddler is relatively cheap and easy to manage alone . Good luck.

Hi Mary

My ex husband is not coming on holiday - but my twin sister and my 14 month old niece are coming instead and it sounds terrible but i will have a better holiday with my sister even if we were still married with no problems!!!!

Ive really tried to be civil and tonight I decided to say Im moving out after the holiday and he said thats fine when i said most men leave he said he wasnt to conventional type!! Although I still love my husband he has no emotion towards me is quite frightening.

My daughter is quite cheap to bring up at the moment but I just bought her the winter clothes but i dont mind - she deserves it!!

Thanks for all ur advise.

hi gizmo, i am in a slightly similar situation to your self but am not married or living in scotland. xp has saud that he would stay here for my financial reasons and for dd's sake, like you i am wary of it. i hope things work out for you sweetheart. ((((((((((((gizmo100)))))))))))))

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