Just trying to guage next steps on this.
History is broke up with ex partner just before lockdown. She lost one her parents at the start of the year, we had financial issues in 2019, and it was a lack of mutual support. No infidelity, just arguing a lot. I think the death of 1 of her parents finished us off as a couple (too much for us to overcome)
She left quite sudden after a weekend away with a female friend, left the kids with me, then came back and took the kids with her and moved to her mums.
Fast forward, after her initially claiming she had been "advised" to deny all contact by "authorities/solicitor" - it became apparent no authorities were involved. No solicitor has ever surfaced to make themselves known.
Instead, her sister/BIL have made it clear they believe I should not see my kids, and my ex should move back into the family home, away from my ex's mum. They have said if I move out permanently and pay for the mortgage/rent until the children are 18, I MIGHT get to see them!
Conveniently, my ex's mum used to be sister/BILs source of childcare.
As I refused, wanting to have some form of guarantee on seeing the kids regularly before moving out, I've since been threatened by them that if I don't comply, I will find out the hard way.
After a month, my ex and me reached an agreement to do calls every other day. I still want visitation, and beyond saying "No" - we haven't yet got to the crux of why/when I attribute more to her all over the place grieving a parent, as she refuses to engage with any professional (medical, mediator etc), but that's a separate matter!
This month, after her sister/BIL tried again to get me to do their agreement, including getting my ex to do a 1 page parenting plan with their idea on it, threatening to physically harm me, making threats they would 'tell the kids how selfish I am so they don't have a relationship with you'. My ex at the same time was offering to let me phone my DD even though she was tired, grumpy and feeling yucky, even phoning and trying to encourage her?
Suddenly the next day after she saw her sister, my ex u-turned and ceased all contact citing the 'authorities/solicitor' argument again... Again, authorities have confirmed no involvement...
Sorry for the wall of text, but my Qs are:
- Could my ex be possibly being controlled by her sister/BIL to enforce their outcome as the "authority"? Is she being emotionally abused by them potentially?
- My DS is supposedly distraught, as we've spent 3 months building a minecraft world over the phone and now he can't access it as they blocked it, surely my ex is allowing her sister/BIL to harm the kids psychologically as they've threatened to do so?!