Ex still won’t accept that it’s over.

[funinthesun19]

Ex moved out late last year, and he’s still taking it very badly.
I gave him chance after chance to change his behaviour but he thought he’ll always be able to get away with it and he’ll get to stay here forever. But I eventually had enough.

Everyday he’s asking for us to get back together. Everyday I give him the same answer. Sometimes he gets aggressive about it (via text) and it just reinforces my reasons why he’s an ex.

I still feel guilty and like I’m never allowed to be happy because I kicked him out. I feel like an awful person, but so much went on that I couldn’t bear it anymore. The kids are much happier now, which is very very comforting.

His family think I’m the worst person in the world for “what I’ve done to him” and have completely ignored my reasons. If the roles were reversed and I behaved like him, they would want me out. But because their son/brother is the one who’s moved out, they won’t have any of it.

They’re all draining me. I still care about my ex and I wanted us to be civil, but he’s being really hard work. He tried to kill himself when he first moved out and I’m scared of it happening again, and I get the blame for it.

I think I have anxiety too which doesn’t help things. I wake up nervous and I go to bed nervous and I’m nervous in between. I do think it’s mainly because of him.

Anyone else going through the same thing?

This guy is refusing to listen to you or to respect your wishes, so it’s time to cut all contact with him. Block his number. Block him on all social media. Do the same to his family. All of them.

If he makes any attempt to contact you again, tell him in no uncertain terms that you don’t want to hear from him again, and that you will consider any further attempts to contact you as harassment and will report him to the police.

I guess if he's the kids' dad you can't cut ALL contact. But I'd do as AgeLikeWine suggests and block him and his family everywhere, except for one email address. Tell him that's the only way he can communicate from hereon and you will only be picking up your emails once a week.

Did he really try to kill himself? Was it a serious attempt or a 'feel sorry for me' half hearted attempt? Whichever, it wasn't your fault, whatever his family may say, he has autonomy.

Make a list of all the shit he put you through. Write it all down. Whenever he tries the pathetic 'want to get back together' or whenever his family try to put the blame onto you, read it through.

Agree with AgeLikeWine. Who gives a fuck what his family thinks?

How do you know about his suicide attempt? Did he or they tell you? If so, are you sure it was real and not amped up for drama purposes and to make you feel guilty?

Also see a GP about you anxiety - I am sure there is something they can do to help.