I need advice about relationship

[Lou8280]

Before I start I know I'm a horrible person. I've been with my partner for 11 years, but lately he's been distant, doesn't tell me he loves me etc. I got chatting to another guy online and he made me feel special, a way my partner hasn't in a long time. Well partner found out, we had an argument, he said he was sorry, I said I was sorry and we agreed to try again. He's never left my side for 2 days, we've went from one extreme to the other and I'm not 100% sure how I feel. When we argued he said he didn't know what he would do without me, and that he'd be starting over again, that's one of the reasons I agreed to try again as I didn't want to hurt him any more. The problem is I can't stop thinking about the other guy and how he made me feel. I don't know what to do as I know the grass isn't usually greener on the other side.

Are you happy? If not then leave, it sounds like he will be very hurt if you were to split but if your not keen it's not fair on him x

If you love him so little that you’ve cheated on him, leave.

I don't know what to do as I know the grass isn't usually greener on the other side.

The best thing to do would be to realise this is not a choice between 2 men.

Perhaps try relationship counselling or individual counselling to help you work out where you want to go from here? It's no good staying out of guilt about hurting him - that isn't enough of a reason - and it's shortchanging him and yourself in the long run if you no longer love him.

I think there is a lot of truth on not knowing what you have till it's gone. Sounds like your partner is either seeing that or os afraid of going it alone.

Feeling sorry for someone is not a good reason for you to stay.

Maybe you need some time out to work out what you want?