Hello all I am struggling to understand whether what I am doing is considered giving the silent treatment to my husband, as i see it as a way of dealing with my emotions. An example on Friday we had an argument about something trivial, but he proceeded to say some totally irrelevant things some quite hurtful, and was quite irate. That evening I went to talk to him and but he kept me waiting texting on the phone our landlord, so I left him. The next day I was civil however not talking in my usual friendly way, as I was still quite annoyed and upset about the day before. In the evening he blew up and started ranting saying I was giving him the silent treatment and I am toxic etc. I don't understand this, as if he says hurtful things to me why does he expect me to just get on the next day as if everything is normal, without any apology ? We had a talk about this and I was trying to explain that when we argue he says really nasty things, which makes me retreat and not want to talk to him, but he says that he doesn't mean these things, but then why say those kind of things ? and he rarely apologies for the things he says apparently it's all part and parcel of an arguement, yet me giving the silent treatment is the toxic part ? We have kids so I tend to retreat because I don't want the arguement to escalate, because when he is ranting if I started too, this could be even more distressing. Just a note that our arguements are rare maybe once a year, but I really want to understand how to deal better with the situation.