Should I tell him I miss him

[Fairycake2]

My DH left me 8 months ago, completely out of the blue for me. We've had pretty much no contact since and I have no idea where he lives etc.

We have no children so there is no need to stay in touch and in lots of ways its been easier to have no contact.

I was doing really well for the first 6 to 7 months but recently I've been finding it difficult and have been sad, not helped by the fact I found out he's met someone else.

There's lots of things I didn't like about him any more and he completely took me for granted but my brain keeps remembering only the good bits.

I recently had to email him about the divorce and since then I keep having a strong desire to tell him I hate that we're getting divroced and that I miss him.

I know I probably won't get a reply but almost feel like I need to tell him.

Do you think I should?

OP, it is highly likely that there was someone else before he left.

The person you are missing does not exist.

Grieve the end of the relationship.

You’re grieving and missing what could have been, in your ideal world, not who he actually is.

Do you actually need to have his number in your phone? You could make a note of it (eg email it to yourself) and delete him from your contacts or block his number and just use solicitors to manage the divorce.

Then you won’t be so tempted to think about contacting him

Op, like you said, you were unsuited and your brain only remembers the good bits. It’s probably just a bit of jealousy (completely normal) why you’re thinking of him now when he’s got with something else. There’s no chance of you getting back together, and from the sounds of it that’s a good thing. Don’t lose your dignity by messaging him

Another good way to stop the idea of messaging is to imagine the two of them reading the message together and having a laugh at it.

I deleted and blocked his number a long time ago so only have contact by email but perhaps will remove that too. I like your idea @JeSuisPoulet. That shouldn't definitely have the desired effect!

I’ve realised over time that feeling that way has lost me nearly a year of my life for someone who didn’t give a sh...t. You are wonderful, let him have his happiness and trust that karma will play its part