I've read so many threads where women, who question whether they are loveable, are told that everyone is loveable.
Surely, if that were the case, there would be some evidence of it!
I have children and they love me but no man has ever fallen in love with me. I've never sparked that in anyone. I've had relationships but they've never been 'loving' and I've not been loved in them.
My children find it hard.
They are both getting older and many of their friends parents have divorced at some point but all of them, without exception, have gone on to meet someone and remarry within a few years. I'm the only single parent they know and have been for nearly 10 years.
They both see being in a loving relationship as 'normal' and don't really understand why I'm not.
I have accepted it. I do date but I enjoy the dalliance for what it is and have no expectations that they will want to take it further. And they never do.
I don't lament the lack of a loving relationship to my children. This is purely their perception. I have friends and hobbies and I'm quite happy when on my own. I worry about what impact it will have on them if they come to also see me as 'unloveable' and how that will affect their sense of self. My daughter has already told me that she has turned down boys who have asked her out because she thinks they are joking and doing it as a dare. I would say that, in every other aspect of her life, she is quite self assured and confident.
Their dad is in a warm and loving relationship, which is great for them to see. I always just assumed that they would see from me that it's not necessary to be in a relationship and that it is possible to be just as happy and fulfilled single but I don't think I'm modelling to them what I thought I was 