Is he potentially abusive?

[quirkybird3]

Well I've been with my boyfriend for about a year..the other day we were in bed and I turned around and accidentally elbowed him in the nose. He immediately clipped me round the ear...wasn't especially hard but even so.
He has smashed my phone once too on purpose , I can't remember the reason now. And tried to trip me over after an argument as I went to leave.
Do you think this is worrying? He said he'd never hit a woman but I just don't like some of his behaviour.

And reading your replies...adding:
*never apologises
*doesn't care about your needs
*smashes things when angry (intimidation tactic and common predecessor to physical abuse).

Scary.

In my country clipping the ear is a "fun" thing.

However, smash your phone a couple of times is a NO-NO!

He doesn't sincerely apologise, just half hearted really. He didn't apologise for the ear thing.
It's strange, he holds doors open for me, pays when we go out, is affectionate, polite, mostly.
But he doesn't really listen to me. I feel like he doesn't even know who I am really. He wouldn't be able to tell you what music I liked, favourite artists and writers, or what my interests are. I think that is true. We don't see to converse on a meaningful level. I left once before and we didn't talk about anything when we reunited, it was all just swept away and we continued as normal. But I feel things needed to be talked about.
I'm shy and honestly I find it hard to voice my opinions sometimes which I hate, he is confident and talks easily, but he just doesn't seem to listen to me. When I have tried to talk he just storms out or says get over it can we move on.

Basically you fill the girlfriend slot. He doesn't care who you are.

Might be worth youtube searching
'Narcissists dont listen'
And
'Narcissists don't care about your feelings'

Looked like there were a few helpful videos there.
Obviously don't let him see them whatever you do lol.

I think you're quite right. He doesn't care who I am. Maybe he is narcissistic...he doesn't act like he loves himself or anything but he is confident in himself.
Well we're not on great terms due to some behaviour of his, haven't even spoken in a week and he's not exactly making an effort.
I don't think he cares at all anyway.

Just block him already and move on with your life. Your relationship with him is utter shit.

LTB this doesn't bode well.

My stbxh also never a hit a woman... Until 1 day he did. 10 years we were together where he smashed things if he got mad, then one day, he hit me and it got worse from there.
Run, OP!

Yea it is abusive. I've been with my husband almost 20 years he has never deliberately broken anything of mine and has just said 'ow!' when I've accidentally hurt him.

Imagine what hed be like with a little child who always seem to yank your hair or elbow you in the boob or something when they're playing.

It sounds like 90pc of your relationship is horrible OP

Yeh not all narcissists act like they are overly into themselves. Especially the 'covert narcissists'. Its more about general patterns of selfishness and lack of caring about others feelings. Sometimes they are more malignant and actually deliberately hurt ppl too because it makes them feel the big man (or woman). But mostly...they are just cold, like something is fundamentally missing in them.

Agree with pp, block him on everything.

Yeah he seems warm and kind to some degree...he is more physically affectionate than me for sure.
But there is definitely something lacking. We should be able to discuss our feelings without storming out, refusal to listen.
And obviously the intimidation of phone smashing etc. His family think he has mental issues, which he won't address.
Thanks all for answering.