Urgent help

[coffeandcake]

Hi all,

I need your urgent advice. I am a 40 year old male and had a silly argument with my partner who lives apart about 2 weeks ago. I was completely at fault as I felt angry and stopped communicating for 2 days which she didn't like and has not talked to me since then. We didn't have any previous issues apart from me doing a similar thing on 2 occasions in the past for few hours when I couldn't communicate with her. I am confident that she is not into anyone else and respect and love her to my life. She has since been not communicating a lot except saying that she needs some space for now but wouldn't tell me for how long or what can I do in the meanwhile. I am obviously very angry and with myself and ashamed for my behaviour and miss her too much but she will not let me explain as she is hurt too. Have I lost her completely or I still have some hope? What do I do in the meanwhile whether to text her or not as she hasn't told me either way. I don't want to invade her space but don't want her to feel that I don't care for her. Could you advise whats best to do?

If you have done this before and recognise that you are/were in the wrong, then maybe you need to leave her in peace for a while, and during that time set about asking yourself why you do these things. Unless you can sort yourself out, then she will have no particular reason to have you back.

I think you need to respect her request for space but it sounds pretty hopeless. Also, when someone refuses to speak after a row, as you have done, it’s a controlling and manipulative behaviour, downright abusive. You’ve done this 3 times at least. I don’t blame her if she’s had enough.

She has since been not communicating a lot except saying that she needs some space for now but wouldn't tell me for how long or what can I do in the meanwhile.

Need some space for now= leave it to her to contact you when she feels ready. Don't msg her or anything as she's said she needs space.

Leave her alone, move on and don’t do whatever it is that’s pissed her off in your next relationship.