Tinder or something else

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So after 3 years of being single and realising I will never meet anyone irl, I decided to join the world of online dating, but since joining tinder last night I have swiped through hundreds of profiles and haven’t found a single person I find attractive! Maybe I am on the wrong app! Or maybe I’m too fussy, is there a better one? I just assumed tinder was the most popular so probably the best one to try but honestly I have not seen one single man I have wanted to swipe right on.

I find its generally the same people on most apps tbh.

you should join the dating thread in this section. you'll get lots of good advice.

Maybe try a site where there's more of a profile attached rather than just photos. Then you have the opportunity of being attracted to their personality too

Unfortunately that's how it is - very few attractive guys around who are single. I refuse to settle so I'm just staying single. It sucks but such is life.

Try Hinge

Thanks for the suggestions. I just feel like giving up tbh! I know it’s only been 24 hours but I’m not sure that old is for me! The last two people I found attractive was after actually getting to know them. I will try for a little bit longer I guess I have nothing to lose

I was really fussy when I first joined tinder. Hardly any right swipes. Then my friend told me to be less fussy and see what happens. I eventually matched with someone, he messaged me quickly and his messages made me laugh. His photos weren't anything special. We've been together 3 months now and are very happy together. It's definitely worth starting off being a bit less fussy and giving people a chance.

OP. Have you tried widening your age ranges?
Also when you say attracted to are you just talking physically or are you reading their bio's?

I’m not physically attracted to anyone I’ve seen at all, even today more swiping and nope! I don’t know what’s wrong with me My age range is pretty wide, wider than I would normally date I’m 31 and I have it between 31 and 44 which is a lot older than I have ever dated, I usually date no more than a couple of years older, but was trying to be more open minded, I won’t date anyone younger.

If you've been 3 years single, i'd a least swipe right on some of the more desirable (to you) options. Get comfortable with dating again, and who knows you might meet someone you'd like. Do you have any friends who could set you up?

No I hate the thought of being set up, most of my friends are single anyway so I think if they knew any single attractive men they would be after them for themselves!

Is there a strong reason you won’t date anyone younger?

I’m 30’s too, and although initially I felt like a cradle-snatcher accepting dates with younger guys it’s actually pretty cool?

I thought I’d be seen as a “sex person only” or I’d have to “play mummy” to someone immature but I’ve been proved rather wrong.

The little pool of men I’ve been on serious dates with has been mid twenties-early thirties

Not sure what your goals are, but in a way they’re a lot better relationship prospects than guys in their 30s and 40s

they’re socially “flexible” still, enthusiastic about dating seriously and settling down if that’s your goal?

I’ve gone older in the past and tbh felt the good guys were getting thin on the ground.

No I wouldn’t consider dating someone younger, younger guys have never appealed to me, I also have children so feel someone older and more mature would be better for me, I personally find younger guys less understanding and more likely to want something casual (though I realise older guys can as well!) I think a guy in his 20s is less likely to want a committed relationship as I know what guys in there 20s are like!

I tried pof the other day and it was dire. Could go through 20 pages and not find one person I was attracted to. Where as on tinder I probably right swipe every third person. But you cant narrow down what you are looking for on tinder so it's a bit all up in the air. I might give bumble a shot.

But I'm holding off on dating for a bit as it's harder to meet folks atm and I like to meet ppl early to make sure they arent just time wasters, online to chat to ppl to boost their ego or something similar.